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writes:We had a brief romance, but it was pretty intense while it lasted. At first, he wanted to be friends after, esp since we have to still see each other everyday at work..but I got nasty..that was my fault. Anyway, it was like 6 months ago and he and I said hi, good morning to each other, but no real conversations. He got on the elevator w/ me 2 weeks ago and I began a polite conversation with him...which he was quite receptive to...he was polite and even said, "thanks for asking" (about his niece and nephew..) and he continued the conversation once in the lobby...finally I said, "well I'll let you go" and we parted ways. It was good...I figured, since it is very important to him to maintain friendly ways with people, he would be glad to go back to being friendly in the office. But ever since then, he's been quite cold and hasn't said anything to me...it's weird. I'm over him now, and I thought we could pick up where he wanted to be 7 months ago and just be office friendly...but he's acting as though he's mad at me...
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (25 October 2011):
 Well, it sort of makes sense. When he wanted to keep it friendly, you got nasty . It took you 7 months to cool down and show friendliness, and maybe now he thinks why has it all to be on your terms and conditions. Or , more simply, 7 months are quite a long time for a short ( albeit intense ) relationship and now he does not care one way or the other whether you stay friends or not. Plus, even if this guy is in general a friendly person, remember that " let's be friends " said to an ex ,very often does not mean absolutely anything, it's just a defuser of social hostility, one of those polite things you say like " let's do lunch some time ".
But, why do you let this bother you ? You are over him, there is seldom any point in staying friends with an ex , and as long as he is civil and polite to you ( he is ) all's well that ends well.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (25 October 2011):
 I guess he was hurt by you being nasty and hasn't been able to forgive you. If he was involved with or started dating another woman he may be keeping his distance because he doesn't want her or anyone else to find out.
Maybe he's been waiting for an apology from you and was annoyed you didn't offer one to him.
Sorry it didn't work out. I would avoid dating co-workers and reflect on why you felt the need to be nasty to him.
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