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writes:I am 30, 31 next week. I have this problem with my husband. Saturday night is date night. We went out to eat and then to a movie. He does not do this the rest of the week, but on date night, he is picky about what I wear. When we got to the movie, he later got annoyed with me because the popcorn boy was staring at my boobs. The thing is that my husband wants me in a fairly low cut dress and no bra on date night. I am a little more than flat chested so a kid stared and he fusses at me about it. What to do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2012): I assume that you love your husband and want to stay with him, even though he does sound unreasonable.
How about if you compromise, and explain that since you can't control how other guys react to your bralessness, that you'll take your bra off in the car on the way home or something?
You could also tell him that it'll be special just for him.
Best of luck!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (29 June 2012):
 OH wow... if my guy got fussy after I wore what he asked me to wear (and he does on date night like you get a say in what I wear but going BRA-LESS would not be an option even with my surgery)... he'd be told
"look either i wear what YOU want and you accept the looks and comments i get or your STFU and I wear what I want"
if he gets pissy oh well... too bad. since he's a husband you probably want to try to fix this rather than leave him.
so until he realizes he can't control what OTHERS do, he has no say in what you wear.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (29 June 2012):
 Why would you stay with this guy? He dictates what you wear, (tells you to dress in a flashy way) and then gets mad when other guys find you attractive even though it's totally out of your control.
I'm pretty sure this kind of attitude is only tolerated in the middle east, where a woman is punished for other men looking at her. Have you pointed that out to him?
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (29 June 2012):
 You ignore your husband. It's a free world. There is no law saying you can't stare at some one's breast or crotch. What your husband is asking is unrealistic. He is proud to show you to the world but he wants people to pretend they are blind. What were you supposed to do? Cover your boobs with a scarf whenever men walk by, then flash it to your husband when the men are gone?
Why are you in this kind of submissive relationship? Your husband is being unreasonable. I know I can't be submissive to a man who thinks everything is my fault and that I am totally responsible for his irrational feelings.
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