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*oliticalyLawful
writes:This kid in my class is a total bitch lets call him "joe". He thinks this girl who dosen't like him belongs to him and he won't let anyone talk to her, lets call her "jane". So jane and one of her friends were walking around town and decided to come to my house( I don't know why) they came inside and we hung out a little, later they wanted me to show them where my good friend, let's call him "jerry" lives , jerry lives down the street and i showed them where he lives and we hung out outside. Later jerry calls me and says that joe started screaming at him cause he talked too jane, so i can't imagine what he said about me. Jane and her friend came back to my house 2 more weekends in a row and they imed joe sayin there were at my house to make him mad and they took pictures of themselves sitting next to me, now joe talks nasty about me behind my back (even though all i did was let people into my house) he didnt invite to his party, what should i do to deal with joe, the annoying, bitchy, cheap, obssessive and annoying short kid?
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reader, starfairy  +, writes (22 July 2008):
 lol you are so not 10-12 :-D
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2008): i'd love to know wat 'political strings' are for a 12 year old.
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reader, PoliticalyLawful +, writes (21 July 2008):
PoliticalyLawful is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm 12 (13 in a month), I'v studied politics since i was 5 and have been all poltical and stuff.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2008): your both being as childish as one another
ok so he thinks he owns her...but them taking pictures of you with them to annoy them thats just stupid sorry. you all have to grow up and stop taunting each other. speak to him and tell him what you have a problem with and sort it out normally instead of making him jealous.
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (21 July 2008):
 can i just ask how old you are? it says you're in the 10-12 age group but i somehow find it hard to believe that someone that age is this mature and pulls 'political strings'? just a question
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (21 July 2008):
 Well, I guess you have it all figured out. So good luck.
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reader, PoliticalyLawful +, writes (21 July 2008):
PoliticalyLawful is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDear Lily Moll,
These girls are sweet and nice, they are a year younger than me and are some of the most innocent girls i know and the only thing they were smart enough to do were come into my the week before i was running against Jane in an a school wide election (i won but thats off the record). Joe was anoyying the crap out of Jane and she tried to let him down easy, but he wouldnt give up they didnt start Iming him, he IMed me and jane said she was at my house, Joe didnt believe him so Jane's friend sent him a picture. Joe never liked me since he meant me, i guess i was too prepy for him or something like that. I was not a pawn if anything people owe me alot a favors for pulling political strings for them.
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reader, PoliticalyLawful +, writes (21 July 2008):
PoliticalyLawful is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't think i should apologize to him, he got mad at me for other people freely going to my house and THEY were mocking him, not me. The prank I didn't start, Jerry did while i was at his house and he called Josh and Jane to go along with it.
Talking to Joe won't work, he trhough a hissy fit on the last day off school cause Jane wouldn't go to his party (infact he canceled it all together). Whenever teachers yell at him he stops, pouts, and slams things. He dosen't care about anyones opinon, he tells everyone he's rich and thats only because his mom is fucking a rich guy. He picks dollar bills off the floor when no one is looking in other peoples houses.(Jerry always puts money on the floor in his house and hinds and Joe picks it up). He's a wannabe gangster, he's white andthinks he's black and thinks he's awesome at everything, you can't negotiate with this kid. He's insane!
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reader, O Connor +, writes (21 July 2008):
i dont think that should be playing pranks on him - its not fair on him, no matter how annoying or mean he is - doing that to him is stooping just as low as him. if he still believes that the 2 are going out let him know the truth and leave it at that. dont play him at his own game though. be the bigger person here and ignore him and wat he does.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (20 July 2008):
Sorry, me again. In reading the previous answers, especially the one by cupidguy, this made me remember something from when I was growing up.
There was this girl, let's call her 'Emma' and she was kind of a pain. She would be very clingy and try to make friends and would follow people around and just generally be a pain in the backside. She would pretend to be smarter than she really was and told people that she could speak another language. And of course she couldn't speak another language. She would find the new kid in school and try to make friends and if the new kid did make friends with her, then everyone would ignore the new kid, until the new kid got wise and dumped her. So she would be alone again, and would carry on with this really irritating behavior.
All this went on for a while, until one day, when Emma was not in school, all of us who were in her class had a visit by the principal and the school counselor and the teacher was there too.
We were told a little bit about Emma's background, that her parents weren't together, and in fact were divorcing. That they had moved a whole bunch of times and that she'd never been in a place long enough to feel settled down. That the reason she told these big lies was so that people would accept her and like her. She just didn't know any other way of trying to get people to like her. I don't know about the other kids in my class, but after that, I felt very badly about the way that I had treated Emma and that I had joined into laughing about her and making fun of her. It made me grow up just a little bit and see things from the other person's point of view.
And looking back on it, I apologize to Emma right now for all the things she had to go through. Her life wasn't good, she was unhappy, she didn't know how to cope with things, so she did what she thought was the best way to find friends. And it so backfired on her that we, her classmates, had to get a big talking-to by the principal, counselor and our teacher. We must have been just awful to her. I shudder to think about how much she must have suffered at our youthful and idiotic treatment of her.
Sorry for going down memory lane here.
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reader, sarah w +, writes (20 July 2008):
 hmm your realy angry,i think you should just let it blow over,say to yourself "i dont give a flying a "...." dont worry have BBQ and dont invite them ha ha sorted!
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (20 July 2008):
Sorry, I hadn't read your follow up when I wrote my answer. I think it's time to start to treat people with dignity, and you are behaving like little silly children if you continue to taunt Joe.
This kind of thing will only hurt people, and why do you want to hurt someone? He sounds like a guy who has a lot of growing up to do, but you know what? You all sound like you need to take a big step back, and work on what the word 'empathy' means.
There will always be people who seem to be out of step with the rest of the crowd, but that doesn't mean that they deserve to be treated harshly.
Try to rise above immature behavior and think about what someone you think is smart would do. Again, what do you think your father or mother would have done at your age in this situation? And do you think that your mother and father would be proud of you for this right now?
In fact, they might be proud of you for coming to them for some advice on this, seeing as how you've had all of them but Joe in your house?
Oh hon, sometimes you will meet people who aren't very grown up and act in stupid ways. Sometimes these people have problems and should be treated with pity and some sympathy, instead of with hurtful things.
You take care now. Good luck.
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reader, Lily Moll +, writes (20 July 2008):
I think it's mean, but it's also been a month, so you all could just stop and let it go, and eventually he'll get over it. Apologize to him, tell him it just got out of hand or whatever. But if you really want to deal with him, you have to stop, and let him know it's over, and it will be up to him to let it go after that. It could take him a while, though, because it sounds like he's unbalanced.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2008): why would ur boyfriend call you and say he was with another girl
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (20 July 2008):
First of all, I think you all need to stop taunting him a bit. This isn't actually very nice to him. I know he's a major jerk and immature and all that, but you need to rise above that and be more grown up and show him that you are more mature than he is.
If he starts yelling at any one of you, just ignore him. I would recommend that the girls stop IMing him because that just makes him think that they actually do care about what he thinks, and that really isn't the case here, right?
And try to look at it from his immature perspective; why would he invite you, the guy who seems to be taunting him with the girl he likes, to his party? Obviously, he needs to grow up a bit, and start having some empathy for other people's feelings.
So the best way to handle this to me would be to stop IMing him, because that's just making fun of him and kind of immature, really, and to ignore him when he's yelling at anyone, and to think about what a really mature person would do in this situation. Like, what would your dad have done at this age?
Anyway, good luck with Joe! And I hope everything turns out well for you.
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reader, PoliticalyLawful +, writes (20 July 2008):
PoliticalyLawful is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJerry isnt friends with Joe and Me,Jerry,Jane,and this kid Josh pulled a prank on Joe that Jane and Josh are going out and he's being all retarted and sayin bad things about josh. We started it over a month ago and he still believes it do you think thats mean or he got what was commin to him
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reader, Lily Moll +, writes (20 July 2008):
What should you do about these girls who are using you to manipulate Joe? Especially since it sounds like Joe was your friend, at least a little bit, if he would have invited you to his party if it wasn't for these girls playing the two of you off each other. The girls are having fun being mean and torturing Joe, and they dragged you into it. You said they came to your house (the first time) and you didn't know why-- they wanted to use you and your friend Jerry to make Joe mad, that's why! You should be mad at them for using you like a pawn to hurt someone else for their own enjoyment.
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reader, starfairy +, writes (20 July 2008):
Ignore him, what a twat. But it's up to this Jane girl to stand up to him too! Just let him know you won't tolerate that behaviour but don't get too involved.
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reader, O Connor +, writes (20 July 2008):
ignore him. and next time those girls come over to your house - dont let them use you as fuel to anger this kid. he's obviously got issues and just because he is annoying and weird, he doesnt deserve that kind of treatment - it just makes you guys as bad as him. just ignore him and wat he says, reacting to him will only egg him on if he sees that wat he is saying and doing is working.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2008): wow it's kinda creppy isn't it ? Well why don't you try talkin to him calmly and having "jane" talk to him too. Tell him that his behavior is not right and very annoying and just creepy. Tell him that if it continues you will call some authority on him like a principal or somthing.
I hope this helped a bit
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reader, Chick 2912 +, writes (20 July 2008):
 The best thing you can do with this, is ignore him. He's crying out for attention from his mates and trying to show off in front of 'Jane'.
People don't need idiots like 'Joe' in their lives. So for him to get over his pathetic childish phase (which we all go through at some point in our lives :P), he needs your help by ignoring him and showing how far its gonna get him in his life.
I hope this advise is useful and you use it to your own advantage.
Chick2912
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