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writes:What is going on?? Help!I am married for almost 8 years now and have two children. Some years ago i have seen in my husband's mobile a text sent to a female co-worker saying kisses everywhere. we had a big fight over this but he claimed nothing happened and that was just a stupid gesture. i never got over this. I expected he will stop talking to her but on the contrary he says I am not in the position to tell him with whom he should be friends with. if he wanted me to trust him back he would stop talking to her i guess. But since then they are still friends,close friends only at work, since he never goes out with his co-workers. over a fight one day he said that she knows i dont like her. when we meet all together they are not talking so much which is strange for me when he says that they are close friends. And i am wondering.. if we talk to our female friends our personals like the fact that i dont like her that means that they are toooo close. small things like a wrong message sent to me by him (but i believe it was suppose to go to her), the fact that she never calls to him at home, that he almost never mentiones her but when he does he always defenting her etc. makes me beleive that something is happening. i dont quite believe he slept with her since he is almost never out but i am sure that they like each other. its been a couple of months now that he forgets everything! he is distructed. a few days ago we had a fight again and he said i am jelous! this hurt me so much. i dont and wont accept the fact that he again defending her over me this time. please advice me what you think is going on and how to handle this. thank you
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (5 January 2011):
I'm about 70 percent sure something's going on. The kisses were one thing, but his reaction towards you and in an outburst claiming that you were 'jealous' after what you found was a bit of a clincher.
The problem is that without any other proof, you'll never be able to confront him again. Therefore, what you need to do is far more digging, but do it silently. You wont' get anywhere through arguing again.
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