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writes:A few months before I met my boyfriend, I met this guy at a local gig and we hit it off instantly. He was a really nice guy and he walked me home that night, though nothing happened as he had a girlfriend. We've been friends ever since that night and I've been with my boyfriend coming up 2 years. This guy broke up with the same girlfriend just last year and ever since his flirting has gone from innocent cheek to intense. For example, last night he was asking me to find out details from my other friend who he had a one night stand with a few months ago. He wanted to know how he was in bed. Our mutual friend didn't have nice things to say about him in bed so I didn't tell him. When he caught the hint he told me that I could still fuck him. He's been like this for a couple of months now and I'm finding it really inappropriate and he's making it difficult to just be friends with him. My boyfriend and I moved countries last year so it's not as if this guy would even have a chance should we break up. That doesn't seem to stop him though. I know I should tell him that he's being inappropriate but he's the type of guy who'd get angry and possibly stir the pot with my relationship.I don't know what to do, I don't want any sort of confrontation with him because he knows things that could potentially ruin my relationship (I told him things in trust during a rough patch).
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (2 April 2012):
 He is not a friend. Stop being "friendly" with him. He obviously has no real respect for you.
And talk to your BF. If you tell him the juicy details your "freind" can ruin anything, because your BF already knows.
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reader, Foot-In-My-Mouth  +, writes (2 April 2012):
 Tell your boyfriend about him, how he's bothering you and what you'd told this guy during the rough patch and by doing this essentially preempt any attempt he might make to communicate with your boyfriend. Once he doesn't have any hold on you, you can pretty easily ignore him and if he threatens to speak to your boyfriend, tell him to be your guest!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2012): This dont sound like the greatest friend, sounds like he wants your legs spread at the end of his bed whether your taken or not. If your worried about him damaging your relationship then youll just have to be honest to your bf before you cut off the gig guy, cause honesty is important.
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