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writes: My ex boyfriend is a creep. He manipulated me throughout high school and abused me psychologically. I'm in college now and have a boyfriend I really care about, but every once in a while my ex will get into contact with me (via different numbers) and say wacky things, like he still wants to be friends.I was his first love also. We were together for about 2 years on/off. I gave him a chance to be my friend but he f*cked up and began flirting with me and trying to get me back. I cut it all off. To this day (2 years later) he is STILL trying to get a hold of me. If I see him somewhere when he comes down for break, I'll ignore him but he will STARE at me (one time we happened to get the same movie theater room and I was with my bf but my ex kept staring and looking back at me every single minute). I'm just creeped out because he has a twisted mind and he is MORE than capable of stalking me (he would if I didn't block his phone number). I've told him numerous times to go away but he wants a friendship and texts me when he's high and things like that. I'm now getting a little worried that he saved some intimate pictures of ours when we were going out (in senior year we took some naked shots together...) he told me he deleted them but I'm just unsure. He's crazy and capable of anything (he does acid and weed and I heard crack) and he looks at sick stuff online and enjoys it so I'm kind of freaking out. What do I do if he decides to come back again?
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (14 December 2011):
 I think it's time to consider legal options. Gather evidence of his emails and text messages, and perhaps consider keeping a log, including dates, times and a description of the behaviour that concerns you.
If he is calling you at home and you have VoIP then arrange to have voice messages sent to your email. That way you can save them as wave files.
I suggest you change your number and keep it unlisted, then hide your Facebook profile.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2011): To be honest, I think this is serious enough to consider letting your local police department know. It's his persistance which concerns me - two whole years later and he's still showing no sign of backing off once and for all? If you feel "he's crazy and capable of anything", then follow your gut instinct. And if you haven't done so already, tell the people around what's happening too (your boyfriend, friends, family); not only for the sake of confiding, but for safety too.Please don't let what I'm writing here frighten you though! You aren't necessarily in any danger, but when someone exhibits such behaviour in your regard, it's better to nip it in the bud as soon as possible. I'm just sorry you've had the misfortune of being involved with an individual like that in the first place. He's every inch the stalker, and for your peace of mind, don't hesitate to take whatever steps necessary to remove him from your life once and for all. Good luck and take care, sweetheart xP.S.: Don't just block his number, change yours (and when you give it to others, do so with the instruction not to pass it on without your consent!)
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