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writes:ok, maybe some of you can decipher this. what does it mean while having sex, your boyfriend grabs your thigh, squeezes it and says, this is what I want not some stick. I'm not fat, but I'm not a stick either. it totally took me out of the mood and i was thinking, who else has he been with. he never even noticed the effect that comment had on me, he continued as if nothing had been said. then later he said he didn't remember saying it. any ideas? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, these posts do give me some comfort. His ex wife is a stick. 5'0 and like 90 lbs. So in some way I felt he was comparing me with her during sex! awkward moment for me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2011): lol im almost sure he was trying to compliment your body in a very sexual way and is pleased and feels good with you in a such an intimate way. Perhaps you could talk to him about wording his feedback so his intentions are clear to you with what he says. Us guys will intend on good things usually but the wrong thing will come out :P
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2011): My best guess is that he thinks you are insecure about your body in that area, and he wanted to let you know he really likes that part of your body the way it is. I don't understand at all why his comment would make you wonder who he has been with? Did he tell you he was a virgin? It seems unlikely to me that he was comparing you to someone else he'd been with. But, even if he was, he was saying he likes you better.
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reader, Sincerely Yours +, writes (11 March 2011):
 Is your age accurate? 30-35? If he is similar age, then it's normal for him to have been with someone else before so the fact that you are worrying about that is concerning to me.
All he was doing was being happy with your body, and if you over think other things like you are doing this, then I am afraid your insecurity is having far too much affect on your daily life.
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reader, LizBeth +, writes (10 March 2011):
It's a compliment. He likes your body and doesn't want to be with some scrawny, sickly female. Accept it, be grateful for it and smile.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (10 March 2011):
 Perhaps he has a meaty thigh fetish? You know instead of slapping your behind during sex and saying "That's what I'm talking about.", he's substituting your thigh.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (10 March 2011):
Means he likes you!
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (10 March 2011):
 I must remember to hit the refresh button before answering a post.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (10 March 2011):
I think you are way over-thinking this. I think he actually was giving you a compliment. It doesn't mean he had to have had sex with a skinny girl to know he likes women with some meat on their bones. Relax.
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reader, Boy Blue +, writes (10 March 2011):
He loves your size. That's what HE meant. Nothing more and nothing less.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (10 March 2011):
 Have you been dieting or trying to lose weight? Have you made any self-deprecating comments in his earshot about your body or your weight?
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reader, FoX15 +, writes (10 March 2011):
Guys get really into the mood. Be happy you turn him on. I'm sure he was just referring to the fact that your thighs are muscular or healthy. He doesn't want bones but some meat on it too. Hes not saying nor is he subliminally telling you to lose weight, but just that fact your body is beautiful just as it is, with the healthy curves that you have. Don't read too much into it. Dirty talk just slips out however weird or random.
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reader, superbunny +, writes (10 March 2011):
 I'd take that a compliment - he wants to be having sex with a woman, not a bony girl! :) xxxx
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