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writes:My GF won't let me go down on her.We are 23, been dating for almost 2 years, and live together.I'm just trying to figure this out. I really want to go down on her, it is such a turn on, but she won't let me. Sometimes, rarely, she'll let me go down for a brief brief moment then pull me up. We have talked about it and the only real reason she's given me was that she worries she smells. This is not true and I have repeatedly told that is not the case. She says she has always been like this, but at the same time hinted that she's gotten off through oral before with prior BF's. Only once has she let me stay down there long enough to get her off.Do some girls really just not like oral? Could her fear of it smelling really be that bad and prevent her from enjoying it?Could there be any other reason she's not telling me? Could she have had a bad experience with it??(I have asked and she insists it is not me, or my technique)Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2010): this is very interesting., i used to have a girlfriend and she used to give me the best oral. once i tried on her and she was so remissive! i mean i could not even kiss her breast because she would make faces. i used to think it was "normal" for women to behave like that.
now, after two years of being with this other girl, i realize that it is not normal at all! i even got to think that she might be lesbian. because my current girlfriend LOVES when i get down there. i mean, sometimes i just do it to please her. she loves it. and she loves when i kiss or please her on her breasts. now i think THAT is normal and not the other way around
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reader, james2010  +, writes (14 January 2010):
She hasnt had it before,and has difficulty in letting me carry on when Im down there,shes exceptionally clean.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2009): You said she's gotten off from past boyfriends and has let you go down for a little bit right? Well maybe you're no good at it! Not be be so blunt, but I used to love receiving from my ex boyfriends and was excited for my current to go down. Within about a minute, I wanted it over. It felt awkward and certainly NOT good. I let him try one more time and same feeling-terrible. We also live together and I don't plan on allowing him down there ever again! I don't want to hurt his feelings and tell him that he sucks, so I always make up an excuse too. Before she lets you go down again, ask someone more successful or a female friend for some pointers. See if her attitude changes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2009): well. some girls do worry about the smell. esp if she's been active in the day and hasn't been able to show since that morning.
I have that problem of I worry I am fat and look gross from that angle.
its all insecurities. sadly nothing my partner says makes me feel more relaxed.
See if she'd feel better if you do it with the lights off. its not as visual but maybe she can let go a little.
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reader, babymama99 +, writes (2 June 2009):
 It can get lonely when its just oral. Some women like to be held in big strong arms, when the time comes for the big O.
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reader, Rihannax  +, writes (2 June 2009):
 Girl or some girls are very conscious of this, insecurities, they may think they are too fat down there, ugly, they may have moles or spots or they smell which is a very common one.
a little thing like that can cause this to happen in a relationship.
I think either she thinks she smells down there, or past experiences, someone may have said she smells down there, wich will put her off of it.
Think if your ex girlfriend or a random person who give you oral said you smell, when you think you didnt, it would hurt and you would get emabarsed, and some people end up believeing that they do actuali smell, wich dont help.
tell her she tastes and smells gorgeous, go down more and more, make her feel comfortable and enjoy it.
hope this helps
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2009): My question is does she like giving you head? this might be a reason why, she doesnt want you to go down on her because she doesnt want to reciprocate!
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reader, Anastasia  +, writes (2 June 2009):
 Hey,
Some ladies just feel a bit self conscious about guys going down there. Yeah , we think we smell even though we done, we think it is already squishy why would a guy want to go there?? Basically we think way too much about it and get really nervous.
Or it could mean that maybe she did have a bad experience once. But honey, this is your sweet heart and you love her to bits, so easy on the questions for now. If she has allowed you to try it out till she orgasmed before, just give her some time to be comfortable with you going there.
She is right, it isn't you, just give some time.....what you can do is reiterate to her that you love her and she is fine odour wise there and that it is such a turn on for you...but if she is uncomfortable is it okay, when she feels okay to do it...let you know...
But for now...she has others bits that you can love = )
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reader, Katy. +, writes (2 June 2009):
 Some girls just really don't like the idea of someone going down on them, me for one, its nothing personal.I'm insecure about my appearance and I'm afraid it will turn my boyfriend off by him doing it, even though I know he won't, girls have weird things that most of the time goes straight over guys heads.
Why not buy some nice smelling lubricants, or chocolate spread, have a look there's loads of things and tell her there's no smell she has to be paranoid about.
If she still doesn't like the idea, then you're not going to get her to like it, why not say letme do it this once and if you don't like it I won't ask again.
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reader, sashana  +, writes (2 June 2009):
 hey there,this is somthing females do go through at times.Iget the feling your not the reason why she is holding back in oral sex,infact i strongly believe its insecurity.
Yes,if she feels that way then she will try to bloc you.I think you should try to convince her that she doesnt smell,even if it doesn't work the first time,you telling her as mush as often,then eventually she will give i
Please do keep in mind that there could be other reasons so the next vital thing to do is sit down and have a talk,try to make her feel comfortable to talk about any thing pertaing to yor situation.kee your cool and good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2009): Yeah i worry about smelling down there as well, thats what puts me off. If a girl doesnt wash down there every time after pissing it can start to smell, because it lingers where as yours is out the end and gone lol. Maybe if you jus tell her it really turns you on and you want to satisfy her in the best way possible, i dont know. Tell her how you feel! And if she really doesnt like it, dont worry about it. 2 years and you havent done it, im sure you can go longer without it! After all its not you losing out on pleasure! Good luck.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (2 June 2009):
 alot of girls are self concious about there belows so this could very well be the reason.
she may think you won't enjoy it.
maybe she does feel she smells down there and you won't like it.
but alot of girls are pretty self concious about what guys will think of there down belows perhaps that's why she doesn#t let you.
she's probably just afraid of what you'll think of her down there.
just try and make her feel comfortable.
:)
hope this helps.
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