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writes:I recently moved to university hall - about 4 weeks ago to be precise and Im having a bit of a complicated problem. I've been really lucky in the sense that I've got 3 fantastic flatmates - one of which is a girl who I've become best mates with. We'll call her Sammie. We tend to go out with anoter group of girls and we all get on fine. They come over here sometimes, and we go over to their flat as well sometimes. Thing is, one of the girls in our group of friends has developed a massive crush on our of male flatmates. At first it was just funny and we used to all have a laugh about it, but then she got hold of his nubmer and began texting him. I wasn't really involved until the other night when I ended up getting drunk with that male housemate and he started talking about all the texts he was getting from my friend. She's apparently texting him like 20 times a day (I can confirm this, always when I'm with her, she is texting himand if he doesnt reply within half an hour, she sends another text) and basically my male flatmate isn't interested at all but is basically too polite to tell he as he wants to keep her as a friend. What can I do to stop my friend getting hurt but without disrupting the friendly atmosphere inthe flat?
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (24 January 2009):
You can't do anything I'm afraid. It's none of your business.
Your male friend has to face up to this. All he has to do is to text her and mention that he could really use her advice as he has a crush on a girl. He just has to drop a load of hints that he is looking at other people and not her. He also must not flirt with her by text, tempting though it may be to get an ego boost from it, it will only lead her on.
If you get involved then this girl will feel like everyone has been laughing at her and feel totally rejected. It has to stay between her and the guy she fancies.
Good Luck!! xx
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