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30-35,
*adeybaby
writes:heyim gonna try and keep this as short as possiblei met a guy off the netthat night i lost my virginity to himwe carried on talking via texts and msnand he always said we would meet againafter 3 months of him promising to meet up again and then canceling i gave up on himwere still very good friends...but in the last few days he has been off with mehe is mad because his ex gf found out about me and him(even tho at the time they werent even together)he is saying that i have told people about him and me and thats how she found outhe wants to get back together with herbut she wontand hes blaming that on mebut ive told him ive told no one (and i aint lying, i really havent told no one)so i got in touch with his ex to see what was going onshe told me that she doesnt want to go out with him again because she cant trust himand that his best friend told her about me and himbut she told me not to tell him that i know how she knows, as his best friend said that he would prefer to be left as annoymousnow he isnt talking to me and hasnt been online for a few daysi really love him and dont want to lose him as a friendand i do think he deserves the right to know why she wont go out with him, and that his best friend is the one who told her...and also telling him would clear my name and he may speak to me againbut i promised his ex i wouldnt say anythingi dont know what to doi really dont want to lose him as a friendbecause i do genuinely care for himso any ideas of what i can do?x
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reader, xKx__  +, writes (14 August 2008):
I completely agree with the answer above
He is not worth your time, you deffinately should move on and leave that in the past, guys like him will always be this way, and you deserve someone better then him, even if you guys started dating eachother, he would most likely fool around on you as well, once a cheater always a cheater.
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reader, Artistry  +, writes (14 August 2008):
 Hi there, This is going to be a bit difficult, but I think you should do nothing. Here's why, this is between the two of them, they have to work it out between themselves. She has to decide if she wants him back, after all he is a cheat. How do you trust a cheat? But worse things have happened between people and they wind up back together. So leave them be. That's the first thing, second thing, please don't worry about clearing your name, eventually she is going to probably tell him who told her, but it will not make a difference on your part, because you are the one in his mind, who caused the break-up, even though you didn't tell. He cheated with you, you have to come to grips with the fact that men use women at times, just to satisfy an urge, once that is done, they move on , in this case he wandered back to his girlfriend. This is probably not the first time he cheated on her, my thought is that men don't cheat in a vacuum, if they cheat once, they'll probably cheat again or they have alredy cheated in the past. This is the nature of some men. They want a steady girl, but they like a little variety. So you are in the middle of a cheater and his girlfriend, who wants to try to believe the lies, he is going to tell her to get back in her good graces. So if I were you, I would forget him, her and the whole thing. I seriously doubt that you love this man, you don't even know him, he was an encounter, leave it where it is, you will be able to find a good friend. He does not want to talk to you right now, you represent agony for him, although he made the move on you, I am so sure. Pick yourself up and realize that you really don't need him as a friend, he is basically a lightweight liar, that's what I call a cheat, He was in your face, making overtures, promising things that he had no intention of delivering, why would you be interested in a liar and a cheat, let her have him, as a friend and a boyfriend, what does she have really? Leave your blue funk in the dust, and get on with finding some honest boy friends, someone who you can hopefully trust, who won't try to sell you a bunch of goods, that are worthless. The world is full of people, men and women who are purely out for themselves, try to discern as you grow, who these people are, and keep your distance. They are called USERS, if you see one, keep walking, not worth your time. Learn to be your own best friend. Let this be a lesson on the road of life, there are many more to learn about. Take care.
Go to: www.socyberty.com/writers/quiet+voice.8137 and
look for "Letting Go: Stop Chasing Ghosts", this article might help you. Stay in touch, you are going to be fine.
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