A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi,I am fairly good looking girl, (or so I have been told) but I rather nerdy, I think. I seem to genuinely be the girl that the guys like to be friends with.I am not looking for a relationship right now, just some casual fun.I have been told its the way I talk to guys, that I always seem to send the message that all I want is friendship. I think this is true, I have noticed that for some reason I do discourage flirting and tend to steer conversations in a platonic direction.I have noticed that the few times I am attracted to some one, I get too shy to talk to him. This may be because I have only been in two relationships, and other than that kissed only two other guys...To put it simply, how to I get more notches on my belt?ThanksFriendzone
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reader, Abella  +, writes (28 July 2012):
 Eye contact - and smile with your eyes
Smile
Listen very carefully
Do an online (FREE) test on Emotional Intelligence
Do not use a false laugh ever - it is irritating
Keep your body in tip top order - work out at a gym if you can
Dress nicely but not in a slutty way. Never a Too Tight skirt. Too short does not look really nice either.
Gentle smiles when he says something funny
Relax and try not to be uptight.
Keep your teeth in good order and clean your teeth twice a day (Halitosis is a passion killer)
Shower every day (body odor is a turn off)
Clean and tone and moisturise your face daily (good skin in good order is sexy)
Be positive
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/tunnel-vision-positive-thinking---used-to.html
let him talk more than you talk - guys love holding the floor.
Give him valid true compliments when you do like something he is wearing.
Try not to swear if you can. A foul mouth is not attractive.
Never get drunk on alcohol - it is not a good look
Be proud of who you are.
Develop a hobby or learn a new skill that could help you create a business in your own right in the future. (men do cope with independent women)
Walk tall and value you.
Do not be a woman who is 'easy' with guys. Guys love a challenge, not a pushover (though they will take advantage of the pushover.)
Good luck.
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