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writes:a simple question, i'm a very nice guy. too much of it. i please my gf in every single way but im afraid she eventually, with time, will have taken me for granted and lose interest. what are the key factors to keep her interested? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2013): This says more about your self esteem then anything else because she is with you for a reason and all you can be is yourzelf because trying to be anything other wont work. So what you need to do is sort out your insecurities and that will then take this worry away and you will become even more attractive to her because you will be more comfortable with who you are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for your comments@ jonas, we've been together for about 9 months only, its ldr and we spend a week together every month. She is 21, I'm 30, everytime we go on trips, and try to show her new things but I'm afraid I'm giving way too much and its true that "nice guys always come last" and don't want that to happen to me.@ codewarrior, after I read your comment I realised that I come into the category of being a schmuck and at this point I'm not letting her to miss me or to do half the job to have this relationship going. Your comments were very clear and refreshing. I guess from now on i'll have to start being a jerk and let my inner nice guy come out only ocassions.thanks!
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reader, Aunty Susie +, writes (3 February 2013):
 Make sure that you have interests of your own, that you don't rely on your GF as your only interest. While it is good to share things, it makes life more interesting for both of you if you have separate interests also. This gives you other things to talk about. You should live in the present, not be worrying about the future. These negative feelings can put dampener on your relationship. So continue to be your 'nice' self, relax, and be happy. The future will take care of its self.
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reader, R1  +, writes (3 February 2013):
 What makes you think she would leave? Girls like confidence and from your question there sounds like you have done self esteem issues.Girls do like nice guys, they like loyalty and trust. Treat her well, be yourself and have the confidence that she will stay.
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