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writes:A little long (sorry)For the past 5 years..........I've been debating this question: Should I tell a girl who is 6 years older than me that I should be the one she should be dating?Now as I said earlier, we've been friends for 5 almost 6 years. We met when I was 17 (her 21), and I think the age thing weirded her out, so to ease the tension that built up between us I told her I "used" to have a crush on her. Then after a few years of still hanging out she moved.Before she moved we did lunch every week, and hung out a lot but I never was able to tell her how I felt, so I decided to make a trip to go see her a month after she moved to her new place. I was the first of any of her friends to visit her in her new place. She was sharing a room with a roommate (however that evening that I was there the roommate was out of town, so I slept in her roommates bed. Her and I chatted for a long time and dating came up.... but no matter how hard I wanted I just couldn't bring it to tell her how I felt. So now I'm wondering if I should have made a move, said something while I was there, because I don't have many people to talk to about this and its eating me up.
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reader, dearkelja +, writes (20 November 2007):
 I guess you should approach it cautiously if you want the friendship to continue in the event she doesn't feel the same about you. Maybe you should go see her again and get to talking about what you want in a mate, that sort of thing. At that time you could maybe talk about her being the perfect person you are looking for and suggest "hey maybe we should try a date on for size." This way if she isn't receptive, you can continue to be friends.
On the other hand, if you feel the friendship can't continue with the way you feel about her then I see no reason you can't just come right out and tell her how you feel. I hope it works out for you.
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