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*ebeccaa
writes:Hello so i have this new boyfriend i really want to make the new relationship work but i feel like im making all the effort. My best friend is with one of his friends so for the school holidays we have been spending time with them the first day we did was the first day we kissed they were quite nice to us.The next day we met up with them but me and my friend went to the shop and they carried on to my boyfriends house and said they would meet us their, so when we got there and they we wouldnt even open the door, we rang them and told them too open the door, they said "we're not even here were at the park". So we went to the park to check if they were there and they was not.After that dramma me and my friend decided to go back to my house and we stayed at my house for a bit. Then after they text us saying, they would let us in if we went back so like idiots we did but they did let us in if we went back. Instead of talking to us though they decided to play on their xbox. Eventually they decided not to ignore us and spoke to us, anyway i had to go back home after a while my friend stayed at my house until late because her dad was at work, we were on the phone to them and they told us how sorry they were for what they had done, and said they wanted to make it up to us the next day and arranged to meet us. So again we got up early my friend came to my house in the morning and got ready together when we got their they were not their, we text them asking where they were and they said they were in bed and cant be bothered to come out!They decided to meet us again and as we were on our way to meet them they text us saying "we cant come out one has got to stay at home with his mum because she is poorly and one has got to go see his cousin because hes broke his leg". We didnt no wehter to believe this so we asked one of their sisters if it was true about his cousin breaking is leg and she said it was. But what i dont understand is if they couldnt come out in the first place why couldnt they have just messaged us on facebook or text us letting us know? I also have just sent him a long message explaining how i feel but he hasnt replied and i told him im sick of being messed around and in future if he wants to see me he can arrange it and make the effort. But im worried this wont work. Should we break up with our boyfriends or is their anything else we can do?
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reader, Rebeccaa +, writes (15 April 2011):
Rebeccaa is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thankyou everyone :)
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reader, fishdish  +, writes (15 April 2011):
 I meant to say that you shouldn't even like send them something saying it's over because I have a feeling they don't even consider the kiss having 'begun' anything..
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reader, fishdish +, writes (15 April 2011):
I think "boyfriends" is a little too serious of a term for what they consider themselves. they're messing around with you, and they're waiting to see how long it will take before you wise up. Move on with dignity, I'm sorry they sound terrible, but you'll find better guys someday! good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2011): they are losers. and u make it easy for them.get some serious hobbies. those guys were playing video games AND ignoring yoU!whaaat! they seem "bad boys". is that why u like them?please stay away. they're very disrespectful.you WILL NOT BE ABLE TO CHANGE THEM.theyre not even ur boyfriends ...dont say "break up"...how can u call someone ur boyfriend when he doesnt even pay attention to you???Focus on ur friends. Good guys will want to take u out,give u their undevided attention,be nice to u. right now ur very young,u will be meeting guys ur entire life. personally,i used to be a low-profile girl in high school. i was a straight As student and that was all. no dates. and if u ask me now,i've dated two professional athletes, and tons of great men. I took my time.I kept my head in the books,became smart and knowledgeable. Read a lot of books on men's behavior. I am only 21 :)Take ur time girlies. Develop ur personalities. Develop Skills. Hobbies. Dont sit around getting ready for douchebags. Become STRONG women. Good luck!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (15 April 2011):
 well they don't sound like much of a pair of boyfriends to me.so i'd stop chasing them and paying attention to them.
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