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writes:Hi, ive been going out with a girl for a while now and its obvious we are quite serious over each other. We have both hinted and spending our lives together in the future, but I have a problem... Thing is i'm a Christian and she isnt... and I can't marry her unless she is a Christian too. So i'm not sure what to do :/. I could tell her but im worried that she might think that I don't love her and that I put my religion before her... Im realy stuck at the moment and need some advice. Please help, thanks :)
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (26 March 2008):
 You can marry her by either she becoming a Christian
or your leaving the Christian church.
Here I say church , because you leave that church which
tell you that you cannot marry a non Christian.
You can still hang onto your Christian faith.
It is not 'CANNOT' but SHOULD NOT!" .Paul is the author and
he is discouraging the Corinthians not to marry non
Christians in Corinthians because they were contaminating
their early and weak faith in Christianity.
Times have changed..
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk, thanks for your help/advice everyone :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): The problem started when you started dating a non-Christian. I am sure you know that as you are not allowed to marry a non-Christian you have no business dating a non-Christian.
That said you need to talk to your pastor about this not seek secular advice.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (24 March 2008):
 I would hope that she would not become a Christian just to please YOU. You can frank discussion on Christianity and present to her your reasons for becoming one. You must be very careful however. Give it time and many quiet chats, she may on her own come around to your way of thinking but I think one's faith is intensely personal and that should always be respected.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question1. I know im quite young to be thinking about this, but I do feel very strongly about her and its mainly for the future, and i dont want to keep anything from her, i want her to know but i dont wana risk anything we have. What im also trying to say is yes, i may be 16-17, but I'm not going to propose to her yet, its just i want her to know that before we get to that stage, she would have to change if you get me? And if/when I ask her, we don't have to get married straight away, so i might not even be married to her until im in my 20's. Its just, mainly, i want her to know the truth about me, but at the same time im worried it could effect what we have...
2. I know is says that a christian cannot marry a non christian, got this just to back up my point: http://www.bible-uk.com/marriage.htm
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reader, Krystelle +, writes (24 March 2008):
im not familiar on what being a christian is about but why CANT you marry her?
is the bible stopping you or your actual family?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): lol you are quite sweet for a 16-17 yr old. Way to young to be thinking about this!
If you really do want to marry, if you really are mature and serious about it, ready to go through Uni knowing you can't have some fun because you married then that's cool. I didn't know there was any rule on Christains only having to marry Christains - partly because I'm one and, the only rule I know about strictions on marriage is Hindu people can only marry Christains, Hindu's, Jews and Muslims.
If you really are serious, then surley she can become a Christain too, if that's the rule, or of course, your wish.
If she doesn't, then you can spend the rest of your lives together, but not married.
To be honest, this is really your descision because it all seems very vague, and not something I could really answer.
Sorry and Good Luck,
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (24 March 2008):
 You are a little young to be worried about getting married. But if you believe that this girl is really to good to lose, then perhaps you could come to some kind of agrement. There is nothing to stop her becoming a cristain, if thats what she wanted.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionlol I spose your right...but I am serious over her, and I don't wana hide anything from her, but at the same time im worried about the consequence... any ideas?
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (24 March 2008):
Awww Buddy you way to young to be sweating this just yet. There is a good chance that by the time you are ready to get married she will have flown the coop anyway. There may be many girlfriends before you find your wife to be. And if she is the ONE maybe by marriage time, she may have become a Christian. But at 16-17 do you really have to worry about this? I'd say just relax and have a good time.
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