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writes:Hello everyoneI have been friends with a girl (we'll call her C) for over 2 years now, and we became very close friends and lived together at a few places and last year moved to an apartment together. Later, our boyfriends ended up moving in too. Her boyfriend and my boyfriend were friends before we even met.For several months everything was fine other than typical roommate bickering now and then, but a few weeks ago we got in a huge fight and now it is unbearable living with her.My boyfriend and I both have endured being disturbed by them arguing/screaming at each other, sometimes waking us up late at night, and we usually don't get involved at all, but one particular night they had been out drinking (a lot) at this sex fetish party thing, and they came home fighting at 6 am. I could hear them wrestling around and then her screaming louder than ever and crying, obviously very drunk. This went on for a few minutes, and I started to get very upset and yelled out for them to shut up. She came in my room crying and screaming out of control and I was basically like, this has got to stop or I'm calling the police, told her to get out of my room, and she hit me in the face twice.I saw that she was hurt (she had been hit in the face by the boyfriend), and I called the police right away because it was too out of control for me to deal with. Anyway, after that horrible night I tried to let it go and forget about it because I knew she was just drunk and upset, but she has been holding a grudge on me for calling the police even though I never pressed any charges on her or anything like that. Today we got into a fight again because I calculated how much all of our bills are, and she didn't understand how I calculated it and insisted that I should give her money when she in fact owed me money (not a lot either, were talking 10 bucks or something), and she flipped out about it and said I was just trying to be complicated.I have tried apologizing to her and talking to her about what happened but she says that she doesn't want to be friends anymore because I should have helped her and not called the cops that night. We still have the lease for the apartment until March. I don't know what to do, but it is driving me crazy having to live here with her never knowing when she will blow up. She is an extremely emotional person and overreacts all the time with me and her boyfriend both. I have been avoiding her, but we also work together. Any advice would be great. thanks.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (3 December 2012):
 These things happen once friends move in together and then move there partners in. It really was never going to work two couples living together, as couples need space and there own privacy. I would say move out and be done with it, but saying as the lease is not up until March I guess you all need to try and sort this out until then. I think the best thing to happen here is for the four of you all to sit down and talk things through, come to some sort off agreement so that you can all try and cope until March. Once the lease is up then you can move out and not have to deal with this any more. Good luck.
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