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writes:Hi all.My love just DOESN'T DIE!!My girlfriend and I broke up at the end of June, so just over two months ago. We broke up because she didn't want to face being in a relationship with me since we lived so far apart (about 200 miles), and she was going to University this month, meaning we'd have less time to even so much as talk.I was crushed over this all. I thought about how I could win her back, but there is just no way of conquering distance right now. We're too young, but I just can't bare the thought of her with anybody else. She should be mine. Nobody will ever put up as much as a fight as I will, despite it being a fight I have no way of winning. Is that foolish?All I know is, I have 8 days of my Summer left. My summer has sucked because we broke up. All the plans we had together, all the closeness we would have had for the entire month of August, wiped out by a single decision. I keep picturing myself just driving all the way up to her town just to see her, and declare my undieing love for her.. Then I come to my senses and realize that in the long run, that wouldn't change the distance. It would show her how much I love her, but she knew I loved her when we broke up.So yes. Is it foolish of me to imagine this sort of thing? It's something I'd definately do in the hope to bring her back to me, but I know in the long run, the relationship is over, and I don't think that there is anything at all I could do to bring it back, until the distance problem is solved, but I think by then it'll be too late; she may already have somebody new by then, and hopefully, so will I.Your thoughts, people.
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reader, Andy00 +, writes (17 September 2007):
Andy00 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Yeh... that's bad anonymous, but I'm looking for advice here...
I'd offer you some, but I don't know what to suggest, other than you ask your own question.
I don't mean to be rude, because I understand that it's tough.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2007): Hi,
I have a similar problem... well she broke up w me six months ago over a transatlantic distance (she canada me in europe). I still didnt get the chance of meeting her and have a one to one conv with her. It is in fact long distance comm that fucked things up in the first place. Now she has moved on, and I cannot just invent 'another reason' to go to canada and meet her on my path. If i make the step of visiting her, its obivous that its just for her. PLus can i go to canada just to see her for a drink...
I love her so much, and i still believe it could have worked out if we had the good circumstances. I feel this breakup has also made me a more mature person, and i want to show her the positive changes i underwent. I sometimes think i should go live in a city nearby, and just tell her that it is for her and that i wont stay forever there but that myu heart says i have to try. So id just find a job there and try to meet her somtimes, withouto f course stalking.
Ah this is so difficult and painful
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reader, In love with God's creation +, writes (4 September 2007):
You are a very intelligent and brave man, what can I say, u did the most sensible thing possible, if you cannot be with her physically and still want the feelings to be intact, be her friend, don't loose touch with her and never ever ever ever ever ever try find out what she is doing at what hour, always give a good mature impression, but never ever ever ever ever ever ever lose touch for her adn believe me or not u will end up with her and will get all her loyalty and love. Make sure u remember all the important dates and make do an effort to see her whenever possible but again never ever ever ever ever say ur coming to meet her only for her, put something else into the picture but spend all the time when ur in her town with her, let her for herself realize that she has loved a man capable of maintaining a relationship across 200 miles, good luck.
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