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36-40,
*ichelle quainoo
writes:i have been in a relationship for ten years with my boyfriend. we spent five years together and he travelled for five years. everything was fine until he came back and wanted to see my parents and his parents to announce the relationship. his mother stood against it with the reason that when i was young i did not respect elders so she will not agree. the mother is my mother's friend. this stopped seeing till he travelled again. he called when he reached that he needs space to ask God for guidance. i later called him and covinced him to tell me what was on his mind, he told me he dated a lady where he is now but realised it was a mistake and told the parents about it and they did not agree. he said it, if he is lying i do not know. he told me point blank that if the mother does not agree there is a possibility that we will break up. he is helpless. i love him. i have told my parents to confront the mother. What else can I do?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (12 December 2010):
 He needs to stand up and be a man. His mother doesnt have the right to decide who he does or doesnt date. If he wants to be with you then he needs to explain to his mother that you are the one to make him happy and ask her to let him be happy. If he is not willing to stand up to his mother then i think that it is best that you call it a day and move on with your life.
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reader, petina1  +, writes (12 December 2010):
 You need to reasure his mother that you are not the little girl who disrespected her elders and you have grown, matured and seen the errors of your ways. Ask her if she will accept your apology and would appreciate her guidance on how to act in the future. What I am really saying is, be-friend his mother and show her that you are worthy enough for her son. Can't you convince your own mother to put in a good word for you.
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reader, Abella  +, writes (12 December 2010):
 You first started see this boy when you were 12? Now you are 22 years old. And he's a supposed adult ? Yet his mother rules his life? And he's recently been unfaithful? What a basket full of problems he is generating. Do not allow his problems to be your problems. He needs to address his own shortcomings, of which there are many.
He's not marriage material while he lets his mother run his life.
And his recent actions have not demonstrated any respect for you. He's appalling and unacceptable if he thinks there are no consequences for his boy behavior.
You need a break from this boy.
And once you meet some real men (not boys) with more spirit than your bf you will never look back.
Before you start looking please see the Articles on this site and read the great ones by anonymousemale1 about recognising a 'player' as you don't need one of them.
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