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*uffnutt
writes:My girlfriend started dating about 3 weeks ago. We had unprotected sex 3 times within a couple days of when we started dating. She also is not on birth control or anything. Last weekend she asked me to give her space cuz she is scared about being pregnant. I took it a little hard cause ive never had anyone ask me for space. I just dont know how long i should give her space. Im 23 and shes 18 i just need some advice on this issue. She tells me shes scared and all. We havent actually talked in over a week now except for a text message here and there. WHAT SHOULD I DO.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2011): Try apologising about what happened. Did you pressure her into having sex? Maybe she's feeling used or scared about what happened. Why didn't you use protection?
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reader, dirtball +, writes (15 February 2011):
 Well Tuffnutt, a selfish guy who won't wear a condom and causes a young girl a pregnancy scare isn't likely to win any awards in her book. Perhaps you should focus on what you could have done differently, and tell her you're sorry for not using protection.
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reader, Tuffnutt +, writes (14 February 2011):
Tuffnutt is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes i am 23 btw, i was born in 87 just aint very good at writing stuff like this. My girlfriend today told me that she wasnt pregnant, but really hasnt talked to me, should i dump her or what??? I dont think she really likes me anymore. She wont anwser a single text hardly or for sure not anwser my phone calls which i have given up on. I dont really know what i should do. I feel like shes kinda jerkin me around. I even sent her 24 roses but she still hasnt called to say thank you or anything.
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reader, chocoholicforever +, writes (14 February 2011):
You should start mentally preparing for fatherhood and how you will support her and the child. It's better to prepare for it and come to terms with it and then find out she's not pregnant after all (in which case I hope you would have learned your lesson to use protection next time), than to find out she really is pregnant and feel as if your world is crashing down.
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reader, mystiquek + ♥, writes (14 February 2011):
 I don't want to bash you, because you do sound confused and concerned about your girlfriend, but I do agree with the walking dude, you truly don't sound as old as what you state. But in any case, let me just say this..and this is in no way meant to be disrespectful to men....there is absolutely NO WAY that a man can possibly understand how a woman feels when she thinks she might be pregnant and she doesn't want to be! NO WAY! It is such a frightening horrifying feeling...your mind is just consumed with fear...(trust me, I've been there--teen pregnancy). It just takes over your every waking thought. You keep hoping praying that your period will start..and you are obsessed with it.
So please try and understand how she feels..respect her feelings, be there for her. And for heaven's sake...don't have sex again without protection....it is NOT worth what you go through afterwards! Good luck!
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reader, fi_the_tree  +, writes (14 February 2011):
 Advise her to take a pregnancy test if her period is late, this is the only way to know for sure.
If you both get through this and work things out, make sure you have condoms to hand in the future...
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2011): Are you sure you are in your 20s? You sound very immature and to be honest you don't sound like you should even be having sex.
Why didn't you use protection?
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