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writes:I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years and he is without a doubt my best friend. I was completely in love with him but when we went off to college, we were fighting a lot and some of my feelings for him sort of evaporated. Now, I think that I have feelings for another one of my guy friends which keeps getting stronger. I feel like this is not fair at all to my boyfriend and I don't know if I should break up with him or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2011): It's important to think about what's best for you, but you need to consider your boyfriend's feeling as well. I agree with the first poster about most things. I think it's best if you give your boyfriend some space and YOU should probably be focusing on your NOW relationship, not your feelings for this new fella. The grass isn't always greener on the other side. Your choice. Your Call.
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reader, 1000lies1000sorrys +, writes (14 February 2011):
 ok, let me put it this way no don't do something your going to regret later on in life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2011): Once you've considered breaking up, it probably because you'd like to see yourself move on.
You're questioning your faithfulness in your relationship because someone is probably treating you rather well. I hope that if things end with your current boyfriend, you'll give your self a little space to be single before allowing yourself to be in a relationship with your other guy friend.
If you're able to give yourself this space first, then that respect will come more naturally in your next dating experiences whether you're with the guy you may be starting to like now, or whether you get back together with your boyfriend, or even if you've found someone else new who's great for you.
As long as you're not married, you need to be thinking about what's best for you in a relationship and then be thinking if you're able to offer what's best for the person that you're in a relationship with.
Your boyfriend probably deserves some space right now as well, because then he'll stay in a relationship where the feelings are healthy, mutual, and faithful. It will be more healthy for everyone, once you're in a situation that shows more benefit from moving on.
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