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We flirt a lot but when I ask him to go out on a date he bails on me. Should I ask him out or is he playing with me?

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Question - (16 November 2012) 2 Answers - (Newest, 17 November 2012)
A male United Kingdom age 18-21, *wright73 writes:


I posted on to this site about a situation that has stayed the same for about a year and it is about this one boy who i have had a crush on for years now, we have both come out as he is gay and i am a bisexual. i told him that i have liked him for ages and we talked and then he said the same about me that he liked me, but i havent asked him out and im not sure if i should cause we are really good friends and i dont want to end our friendship if we break up and it would be really awkward as we are in the same class in school. we also flirt alot to each other about what we would do to one another and have always tried to arrange a time and place to meet up but he always pulls out at the last minute, this has been going on for about a year now, we also send naked pics over skype. so what i ask you is this should i ask him out or is he just playing with me ?

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A female reader, Daisy_Daisy United Kingdom +, writes (17 November 2012):

Daisy_Daisy agony auntIt sounds like he's not ready for the next step when it will become physical. I don't blame him - he's young and possibly a bit confused; it must make it more complicated for him being bi versus gay. I don't think he's deliberately playing with you, but I think you should stop arranging things and back off a bit. Let him suggest something.

And the naked photo thing is not a good idea btw. Imagine if you two fall out and he shows the whole school or even worse .....

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A reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2012):

Dont ask him to go fast! Most people are a little shy or timid about

Going to the next level! Just give him time

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