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writes:Hi, I'm really confused with how I'm feeling. I've been with my boyfriend about 9 months. He seems to be crazy about me, like he's always said I'm his soulmate an that he would move in with me right away if I asked him and that he wants to be with me forever.I care about him so much an we tell each other we love each other. and I do love him but I'm just not sure whether I'm in love with him.We both finish uni soon and are planning on going travelling together. But im noticing that we don't really have much to talk about. We both have the same part time job so we always seem to revert back to talking about work! We don't really have anything in common. I'm interested in cool fashion an love vintage an mod stuff, but he likes superhero films and comics and actions films, but I have no interest in that and I don't feel like we have much of the same sense of humour either.I broke up with him a few months ago because of this. I told him I didn't think we were right for each other. But a week later we were back together because he was phoning me during the week because he didn't understand why i did it, and he was crying on the phone and I just couldn't handle it, I just felt terrible and I felt devastated. So it makes me feel really sad not to have him in my life. And I can't bear the thought of him in his room crying. I can't do it to him again I just can't! That week we broke up I was so depressed an I don't want to feel like that again. But then I know that we're not right for each other, and It runs through my mind constantly when we have a conversation, we just don't 'get' each other.What should I do? :( xx
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reader, lilmishap +, writes (6 May 2013):
you have a RIGHT to end a reltionship. Yes it will hurt you both. but being together to avoid hurt or guilt is deceitful. Breaking up is hard to do cuz its often EASIER to go back to the familiar. if it feels wrong, listen to your gut
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2013): Hi I'm the person who asked this question.
Thank you for your reply :)
Yes we are both very affectionate towards each other. He's quite a lot bigger than me so we love snuggling up together and we're both very attracted to each other..?
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reader, Glacier  +, writes (5 May 2013):
You guys are obviously incompatible. He might really only want you because of sex and just being together but that's not enough.
It won't work between the too of you this way.
Is he affectionate at all?
You felt sorry for him and was afraid to be lonely.
This is a very unhealthy basis for staying with him.
I'm afraid the only solution is to break up with him really.
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