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*nnareece
writes:Please help. I became friends with this guy in facebook, we chatted online every day, we are not completely strangers, more or less have the same circle of friends. We went out once, we had a great time and kissed. For the next three weeks, we chatted every day online, some text messages and a couple of calls, although he wouldn't arrange to meet up and I was too shy to ask him directly for a second date. So I tried to play cool. About a month after our first date, he asked me out. We had a great time and went back to his. We slept together and since then we have been chatting online every day, he calls me baby etc. He made a couple of jealousy comments, i.e. that he is sure I chat to other men and I mentioned this nice restaurant and he said we should have thought about that earlier and gone there. But, a week on, he hasn't asked me out. And he hasn't called, we only talk online. I really like this guy and I don't know how to be. Shall I be direct and ask if he wants to do something, shall I be cool and see what he does? He has said that he is going through a difficult phase, especially since he split up with his ex and mentioned that he had fancied me for a year and only spoke to me now, because he is going through all that. But if he fancied me enough, wouldn't he call or want to see me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2009): You have to decide what you want from him and then talk to him and see what he wants. He could be seeing others or just be confused but whatever the case, you need to find out what is going on.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (14 April 2009):
 well seems as though things were going to plan until you said you couldn't make it.and then he said things were going wrong at work.perhaps he may feel now you're the one who doesn't want to see him he clearly doesn't want to lose you hence the call when you emailed him.you guys will have to work around his work which is unfair because then he will never have anytime for anyone you need to get him to realise that there is more to life than work and you understand he needs to do his work but you also need to know how he's feeling towards you and not leaving you to guess for yourself.you need to know for yourself where you stand, what i suggest is you call him or email him whichever you can get hold of him better on and ask him where it is you stand because you're up and down and messed about you need to know firmly otherwise you can just move on elsewhere rather than waste your time.
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reader, annareece +, writes (13 April 2009):
annareece is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDear allLast week, I followed your advice, to make sure that he knows I want to see him again. When he told me he had been soo busy with work, finishing at 3 in the morning, which I know is true, I said there is always the phone and I want to see you. He said he'd make it up to me. He called me the next day to ask me out. I had already made plans but said if i finish early i'll call him. I text him back saying that i won't make it but will call him the next day cause I really want to see him. The next day he called, we talked for about a minute and he said there something going wrong at work, i'll call you back. That was Thursday. He hasn't called. And it's Monday. He is driving me mad. I don't get it. When I kind of complained to him on the e-mail he immediately called me, which meant I think he wanted me around. Why has he disappeared now??? What do I do? If I see him online do I talk to him first??
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2009): Sounds like you aren't the only woman he's chatting with. I think he's playing the field and seeing as many women as he can since the break up. He has sex with you but is in no rush to see you again for weeks? That whole comment about him going through a difficult phase is really him saying he doesn't want anything serious. Move on.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (5 April 2009):
well hun this maybe because he may think you've not like exactly told him you liked him or indicated that you want more with him.
perhaps you just tell him that you would like to meet up again and possibly take things further and just see how it goes.
he is probably thinking the same as you maybe he is playing it cool to see how you react but don't keep quiet message him and say like "i had a great time and i really like you can we go out again?"
and see wht happens from there hun.
don't keep quiet though otherwise you'll never know as i say he could be thinking the same things as you!
hope this helps
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