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writes:I was with w woman for the last ten months in a pretty solid relationship. We started to argue about some differences here and there and big things turned into bigger things. We seemed to not be able to come to an agreement on some things so I decided to break it off. We broke it off in the midst of a pretty big arguement and I said some pretty mean stuff. I had found out that she was saying some things about our relationship to a friend and I was hurt by it and reacted with anger. It has been about three weeks since the breakup and I haven't heard anything from her. I wrote a letter last week that just said I apologize for the way things ended, I really enjoyed the time we spent together, I hope you do great, ect..It wasn't too mushy, but it did have a very caring undertone. I said I cared about you and I'm sorry for my half in this whole thing not working, ect..I never heard back and realize I might not. I'm a pretty caring man and people in my life mean the world to me, especially after a year. I didn't cheat on her, I never did anything horrible, we just had some differences (sometimes heated) that everyone else has in the course of a relationship. My question is how can people just drop off the face of the planet without saying a word? I know it might be the way some people handle moving on, but it is very strange to me. I would expect maybe a little something saying thank you, I agree, have a nice life, ect..but nothing at all? How do people do that after one year together? I just could never imagine getting a letter from ANYONE i ever dated, no matter how "bad" I thought the relationship was and not responding to it at all..it seems so heartless.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (15 January 2010):
You must have really hurt her, and then when you didn't come back to say "actually let's give this another go" she was even more upset.
So she's done what she needed to so she can move on.
It's always hardest for the one who is dumped even if things aren't working.
Just leave her to it. I'm sure she will think fondly of you at some stage. She just might not tell you about it.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (15 January 2010):
This is how some people move on. In truth, it's the best way. When I split from my girlfriend, I really did have to cut contact. It seems harsh, but if that's the best way for her to move on, then it's the best way.
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