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We broke up, she said don't contact me. So why is she now texting me?

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Question - (20 February 2011) 3 Answers - (Newest, 20 February 2011)
A male United States age 26-29, anonymous writes:

So my ex girlfriend texted me a while ago. Before we had a huge fight i won't bore u with the details and she told me not to contact her again. So then a month later i see her cuz were off of break and back at school and, she walks behind me. So i just act happy and make it seem like nothing is bothering me. She texts me like 2 weeks later saying "I know this is pretty random but i hope ur doing well, and i hope u know i don't have a problem with u." of course it being me i didn't text her back because i know she was waiting for a response. She hasn't text me back and its been almost a month. Do u think she'll text me back or call me later on?

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A female reader, Abella United States +, writes (20 February 2011):

Abella agony auntShe likes being in control. Together you had a huge fight that ended the relationship. She told you not to contact her again. She's arrogant enough to think you are still suffering the absence of her from your life.

She decided to taunt you by walking near you, to get a reaction.

You acted happy, as if nothing was bothering you. As if she no longer affected you.

So she fumed for two weeks. She expected you to be miserable, barely coping without her.

You did not give her the ''sad-sap/loser/pleading hang-dog/i want you back'' reaction she wanted. Well done on your part.

she is so annoyed that you acted cooL. Because you destroyed her chance to gloat at you.

So then she tried the text trick.

She will still be fuming even more, now, that she's had no response to her text.

Once again you have chosen the correct response to her manipulations.

Keep up the good work. You are doing very well, as far as I'm concerned.

Do you really want her back?

Next time you see her she may:

Either look especially good as if she has put serious effort into her looks. But give you the cold shoulder, despite all her effort to look good. Mainly to remind you of what you are missing.

Or She may choose to have some available puppy dog but good looking guy draped over her arm. To remind you that other guys find her attractive, even if you remain immune to her charms

Do you still really want her back? If yes, then do not put up with her games next time.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2011):

If it has been so long don't contact her ..Just wait and make yourself busy. If you feel like replying and it's still not too late just say everything is ok and thank her for asking about you. Just a kind and polite answer then if she has something in her mind she will be more clear..I am a girl and i know how girls act and think :) Trust me..Good luck

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A reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2011):

look bro, text her back. give some bullshit excuse about why u didnt respond, but do it. shes lookin for u to talk to her and who knows... maybe u can start talking again. im in a similar situation, and i kno it sucks. just go with the flow and dont regret any decisions you make

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