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writes:Hi Everyone,I was recently hanging out with an old acquaintance and we were chatting about dates we'd had with other people. This guy then proceeds to tell me that he and a friend were hanging out at his house and he wanted to go to sleep and have this friend stop yacking, so he gave them a sleeping tablet - but he made them think it was some other herbal tablet or something. 0_OI thought this was totally wrong! Its deceptive - that person didn't ask for a tablet to put them to sleep. Plus, its dangerous to slip people things without them choosing to take it, you know? My acquaintance laughed it off but i thought it was pretty serious. What do you all think about this? Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (15 April 2013):
 It's wrong. Absolutely. If you want to give a person something to help them sleep you TELL them what it is, you don't pass it off as something else. WTF would he have done if the sleeping pills reacted in a negative way to any medicine that person is taking?
He isn't a doctor he should hand out medicine like it's candy.
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reader, MsSadie +, writes (15 April 2013):
 Here in the US your old acquaintance could get arrested for pulling something like that.
Yes, it was super wrong! It was wrong because the victim was unaware of what they were consuming, which means that they didn't have the proper information to make an informed decision as to whether or not he/she wanted to take the remedy. It's also super dangerous because the victim wasn't aware of the side effects or hazards that the remedy could have had on him/her. Medications affect everyone differently.
It doesn't matter if the victim was a man or a woman. What your buddy did was absolutely wrong. Let's just hope that it was a stupid, misguided decision as opposed to an unethical, calculated one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2013): It depends on how the "victim" took it. OP you don't specify the gender of the person he dosed. If it's a woman as I'm assuming because you were talking about dating then that's a very fucked up thing to do, for reasons I really don't need to go into. You do not spike a woman with a sleeping pill for any kind of nice reasons, you don't.
But again it depends on how the friend took it, if they're fine with it, laughed it off etc. then I don't see the issue. I mean why did they take the tablet? Sounds to me like they wanted to get high from it and it turned out to be a sleeping pill. I mean come on OP, why else take a tablet at someone's house? Did they have a headache and needed a painkiller?
Plus why would someone take a pill without checking to see what it is? Because they probably don't give a crap as long as it has some kind of effect on the brain.
There's a lot more to this than you or he are saying to be honest. Frankly I'd need to know more.
I would never spike anyone with anything or deceive them as to which drug I'm giving them. All my friends have experimented with drugs and I know if they want some they'll ask. I have though had plenty of friends who were making assholes of themselves while wasted who I plied with more drink and or convinced them to smoke a joint just to calm them down or make them collapse, frankly sometimes that's all you can do really. Of course I'd still be around to keep an eye on them, hold their hair up while puke, hold them back from trying to fight people etc.
It all depends on the context, whether he knew this friend wouldn't mind, whether the friend does in fact mind and whether it's a funny story in the context of his social group, which sounds like it probably is if he's so willing to openly discuss it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2013): Not only is it wrong (and inappropriate, and frankly downright creepy), this guy could have put his friend in serious life-threatening danger had that friend had an allergy to whatever the medication was. Not cool!
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reader, Daisy_Daisy  +, writes (15 April 2013):
 I agree it's serious. Tranquillisers are strong drugs that have to be prescribed by a doctor. The person who was drugged could've had a serious negative reaction. Your acquaintance is a fool.
Since this came up in the context of talking about dating, I hope he hasn't used the sleeping pills for more sinister reasons than shutting up a talkative friend ....
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