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male
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:I am very confused. I met a girl at work recently and we started to get on really well. At work I have helped her out as she is new and this extended to showing her round the area at lunchtime, walking and talking.Then we started texting and flirting and eventually went out for dinner. We did nothing other than hold hands and laugh but she told me afterwards it was an amazing time.Then the next day she told me she hated me and that we would never talk again. Since then I have tried to get her to explain to me but she always ignores my questions.We didn't speak for a while and then she called me up and asked if I wanted to be friends, forgetting the past.I agreed with that and have been friendly and supportive but she keeps pushing me away and asking why do I bother. But if I don't talk to her she says I am abandoning her and gets angry.She accuses me of flirting with other girls (which I'm not) and then telling me she doesn't care. And then she wants to talk to me again!Help me out here ..... what am I missing?
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (26 August 2012):
 O.o Drama Llama Alert!
I would back away from that girl, she sounds nuts!
And honestly, try and find a dating pool that doesn't revolve around your place of work.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (26 August 2012):
 you are missing that this woman is unstable and irrational and that being involved with folks from work is never a good idea...
you need to end it with her and not worry about her insanity.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2012): You are missing the door...
She sounds like a drama queen. If she can't articulate why she hates you one moment and why she wants to be friends the next, she likely isn't mature enough to be a partner or a friend.
My guess is she likes you because you give her attention without asking for much in return. She likely has insecurity issues and perhaps she has had a rough past. This might explain the behavior, but it doesn't excuse it.
If I were you, I'd tell her you can't deal with the hot and cold anymore and end it. If she pushes back, I would plainly tell her the contradictions you've told us and let it sink in.
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