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*ngie610
writes:I returned to my ex at the beginning of this year after being separated for 13 years, we were in our late teens and he was my first boyfriend and back then too many people got involved in our relationship. We never stopped loving each other and when we reconnected we instantly reunited and reignited the fire, May 31st he ended it with me for no reason, he tried to hurt me with nasty words which he later admitted he never meant... three weeks later we got back together and it's been a month since then, yesterday I had a bad day. Instead of him calling me so we could resolve anything he decided to blank me all day and tell me to back off later on. We have problems, that he can't see. He has a son who is five and I have not met him yet, and each time he has him for a long period he does this to me... When we got back together a month ago he told me he loves me and he will never break up with me, and been listening to my complaints, now again he has done this to me and I'm in a daze now, don't want anyone else he is the love of my life... He is pushing me away when he feels it's going too quick, but instead of communicating with me he does this, should I wait and see if he comes back or shall I forget him once and for all?
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (18 July 2013):
 I'd say you've "seen" enough of this guy to realize that there's no future for you, with him....
Walk away and never look back.... Save your soul and your mental health...
Good luck...
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (18 July 2013):
 And now he wants to borrow money from you but not want to TALK, only text?
Yes, he might not have grown at all in those 13 years. I think you are doing wisely in stepping back.
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reader, SensitiveBloke +, writes (18 July 2013):
 Move on to someone a bit more grown up!
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reader, angie610 +, writes (18 July 2013):
angie610 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Honeypie, this also answers another question that I have been doubting in the back of mind for a while. We are two different people and I have been the one trying to make things work, been on eggshells in case he ended it with me again and me who wants to fix the cracks in our relationship... He just walks away, does his stuff and then returns but carving in more cracks.
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reader, angie610 +, writes (18 July 2013):
angie610 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAn update, he has been in contact today to ask me to borrow him some money, instead of calling me and trying to resolve the matter in hand he insists on texts only and he has told me I do his head in because I want to talk things through. Person12345, I feel that he hasn't changed much since his teens and I was reluctant in getting back with him, his ways have changed but the drama and intensity is still there. I like to talk through problems and get to the source of the problem, which I thought was an adult thing to do... He obviously don't like communication. I'm giving him the space he requires, but, I don't think I'll take him back too soon I have enough other life complications to think about!
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (18 July 2013):
You can do this on and off til the cows come hone - this is NOT a healthy way to have a relationship.
And you need to STOP believing all he says, I mean look at his actions... I will NEVER leave you, yet.. where is he?
I think you two are in love with the fantasy of the two of you as you were 13 years ago, facts are, you are both VERY VERY different people.
The fact that you two are ALREADY fighting this much must show you something, I would hope.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (18 July 2013):
 This relationship is FAR too much drama to be worth it. Sounds like not much has really changed since he was a teen. Adults do not get together and break up over, rinse and repeat. This has been going on for months now it sounds like, it's just not worth the heartache. I've never heard of a relationship where the couple breaks up and gets back together multiple times working out long term.
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