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writes:First off I wanna say The bible says nothing about being with a cousin as bad. Actually there are stories of key members being with their cousins. Its bad when you're with a brother or sister, thats considered incest. Anyways I am in severe agony actually, I have a cousin I been in love with all my life. I'm 22 shes 20 we're both scorpios and we were younger we were very close shes always came to me for everything. We always kissed when we were young secretly and i had to move away out of state, for years we didn't speak. Then when i reached about 17 i saw her again and we were instantly attracted to each other again. Not long after that we ended up making out a few times. Then we ended up not speaking to each other again for about a year. I've seen her with different boyfriends over the years and shes turned into a very hateful person in general. She tends to be very pessimistic about life. We are still close but the fact that shes been with people I've respected it and not been trying to make a pass at her. She likes to have me around at weird moments actually, she wants me to lay in bed with her and her boyfriends over time. I don't know what to make of it actually. I know its there still and we've talked about it but shes afraid of what people would think, where as i don't. I'm in so much pain but i tell her I'll wait till the end for her because thats how deep my love is for her. She smiles at me and looks at me very deeply when I've told her that. Nowadays i do everything in my power for her and she truly appreciates it and the feeling is there because we still flirt and touch sometimes. I just feel like this will end up being my demise, my destruction, my un-doing. I'm an artist too as well and I draw and paint pictures of her that I've given to her and her mother(my aunt through marriage).Her mother actually came out with she thinks we're Soulmates. The relationship between my cousin and I is weird since we know its there and sometimes we're not close and other times we are. At this moment of time I can only write to her since shes in jail for Silly things thats shes done. Much more to tell I'll leave that after I get feedback.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2008): Listen. People are idiots. On one hand they claim to religion when they can't predict the future, on the other hand they cling on to "medical" "probabilities when they can't predict the future....point being...cousins are legit mates ! There are numerous accounts of cousin relationships in the "Bible". The whole medical probability is just that ...its a fuking probability, and if you believe in the bible then your "chances" are prolly going to be lower in giving birth to unheathly babies or just as same for non cousin hook ups..
Now the only reason she is "screwing" around is because she is hurt, she wants to be with you...so stop screwing her life up...and give her and yourself a chance. I think she thinks of you when she is hooking up with these blokes...there is a part that's struggling in her head..and needs your attention and your actions...your open acknowledgement....just bite your teeth and take a chance....
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reader, PaulNY +, writes (28 January 2008):
PaulNY is verified as being by the original poster of the question Also we have a lot of habits that are the same. We like almost all the same things, we have the same interest in just about anything and everything to the point where you just know its right. Taboos Suck!!! Prohibit people from living life sometimes. Especially this particular situation. I am mean damn you only live once why not be happy. Thats all i gotta say about it.
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reader, PaulNY +, writes (28 January 2008):
PaulNY is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell In laws of man I've done my research and its not illegal in my state or of any state i would like to live in. I'm in NY and its not illegal. Its more of a modern Taboo if you ask me. Lots of famous people have married their cousins. Scientifically if you would say kids there only a 1% Increase in birth defect if that route were to ever take place. Well like i said the love is there the problem is she has a wall set up in front of her. Because of the countless people thats fucked her over in the past, which has taken a negative effect on her. Sorry to be so detailed about what i say but I'm trying to help you understand. You're right Though about one thing I know the consequences if we were to get together and I'm fine with that. Whats Life without taking chances especially if its to reach Happiness which so few of us ever find. I also know that more than anything We're right for each other. If not than like i said it will lead to my destruction. But thats how deep the love goes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2008): wow man i really feel for you on this one ... its quite a pickle my personal opinions on incest have always been quite opposed, but after hearing your story it does sound like it could be a love worth having, although have you considered the affect that this would have on your entire family? this sounds like an issue that could tear a family apart. What about children if either one of you have dreams of raising a family this is most definitly an unsuitable relationship for a child to be raised in. I would sugest you look for love elsewere , it sounds like you've pretty much dedicated your lovelife to her and chances are if you get out there you would find a relationship that would be alot less strenuous in general. Just remember love wont nessasarily last forever but the problems that your "forbidden" love could cause just might.
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reader, rcn +, writes (26 January 2008):
 There are different areas of love. Love that's meant to be in a relationship and love that is not. You may be soul mates, but what is your position their. Is it a marital position, or is it a be there for her and help her through challenges position. Love can grow through different sides, the side of a man and wife, or the side of I'll be there for you always.What if your position is simpler than you're trying to make it. You said she's developing a cold heart. What if yuor place is not to be married but to help her in opening her heart back up and helping her to warm the cold. This can be from just having a "True" love for her. That's where you love her no matter her mistakes without any return expectation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2008): You're not going to like what I have to say - It doesn't really sound like much of a relationship, whether she is your cousin or not. You don't seem to have that much in common, and you don;t even seem to like or respect each other very much. Even if she weren't your cousin, I would say it sounds pretty bad.The cousin thing. I appreciate your comments about the Bible. But there are also laws of man, and laws of science, and sometimes these differ from what is in the Bible. The Bible does not command us to be with our cousins; it just fails to tell us NOT to, and in that case, I think the laws of man do apply. We no longer condone or accept many things that people in Biblical times did. The civil laws about incest are different from state to state.I hope you will find happiness elsewhere. This situation sounds very unhealthy and is likely to end badly and hurt your family.
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