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writes:help!!This new guy that i am seeing is generally a nice sweet guy, but he is weird in a way that he denies when i ask him not to do anything or change, basically everything. For example, he has a habit early in a morning create a horrendous noise. He slamms doors, cuppboards, utensils with such strenth that its disturbing. also, he wakes up very early even on weekends. I stay at his place only on weekends and sometimes not always. I start my day with a headache because of it. I woke up today to a banging of dishes and asked him to stop. His answer: i dontmake any noise, i am very quiet. What do you mean you are quiet?? There is a reason why i asked you not to make this noise and this reason is because you are in fact very loud. No, he says, i m quiet.Then the way he has sex is very caring and he pleases me always. But when he is inside of me his penis kind of goes not straight but down , if it makes sense. ANyway, i feel like it reaches all the way to my butt, and i have this annoying feeling like i want to go to the bathroom. I told him several times that if he can try to kind of adjust it so it wont create this "i want to poop" sensation. He just laughed and said noone else told him that before. I know, i said, i never had this feeling with any guy before too, could you at least try to change position. No, he said, this is just how i do it.I am on a verge to just drop him. WHat do you guys think? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2016): I was going to say that maybe he has an issue with his hearing, which might explain why he thinks he's being quiet, BUT since he also refuses to switch positions that is just inconsiderate. Dump time.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (28 March 2016):
 He sounds terrible. He's rude, insolent, arrogant and doesn't give a damn about what you think or feel.
Dump him please.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2016): More than his habits, I'd be more concerned with his reactions. Cause everybody has annoying habits but when you get involved with someone you make the effort to not be annoying. He seems to brush off and deny your concerns rather than try to please you.
I can't say for sure it's all him because I don't know how you approach him about this. The way you communicate may come off as abrasive and maybe that's why he gets defensive.
If you're both stubborn it's never going to work. One person has to budge.
The being loud in the morning is just rude. He knows you're there and asleep. To me it sounds like he may be doing it on purpose to wake you up. He's probably a selfish person. To him, it's about what he wants and doesn't care too much how others feel.
If he can't acknowledge these things and show compassion toward your feelings, you should walk. Cause it will only probably get worse. I wouldn't take him too seriously.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (27 March 2016):
 He isn't going to change. That is a fact.
He doesn't care if you want it quiet, if you want to sleep in..
Seems like it's his way or the highway. The fact that he keeps laughing it off should tell you that he doesn't take you serious.
A lot of men have a bit of a "bend" to their penis, in some cases that can be very useful - just not when you have a guy who thinks there is only one position in the book and that you have NO say in how you would like the sex to be... Like who votes him the "supreme commander of positions in bed"? Not a very accommodating lover..
I'd honestly let this one go.
You haven't said how long you have dated him, but I get the feeling that it's not long, which means... you have only seen the tip of the iceberg.
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reader, boo22  +, writes (27 March 2016):
 Hi
He makes you feel uncomfortable both physically and emotionally.
Maybe you feel he's better than nothing?
I think nothing is better than him x
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (27 March 2016):
 Jump over that verge.... and get on with your life. This guy is not very polite and/or accomodating....
Good luck...
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