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writes:So my husband and I were having some trouble concieveing. We are in a very fortunate financial position despite our age and feel we can give a child a good upbringing. With me, everything seemed to be fine, but my husbands test results weren't so great. He had only one sperm analysis done, it confirmed his count anf motility were excellent, but that a large percentage of his sperm are the wrong shape. The doctor has said that it could be the reason we haven't got pregnant. She then started talking about invasive fertility treatments. This has really scared me. He has only had the one analysis done, and usually they take 3 samples unless the first one is perfect, so the fact that we have jumped straight to IVF has really freaked me out. I never dreamed starting my family would be like this. We are both devasted. And I don't want to adopt, I'd really like my own baby. Its all I've ever wanted. I really love my husband, and it breaks my heart to think that my only hope of having a biological child is to find someone else. I wanted us to have our own child together, and I have really been knocked for six with this news. I just can't decide what is more important to me...my husband or my own baby.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2014): Even with this problem still there is a chance that you get pregnant by him without any treatment. The last solution is IVF which is still going to be your own baby. So it is not that devastating.! I would not leave a perfect husband for this reason even if I didnt have any of the options that you already have. you are young and still have time to wait and try if you wish. Good luck!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (27 August 2014):
 You're in shock over the news and this needs time to set in your head first. Right now it's all chaos and you're not abler to think straight. Let things settle down a bit first, give this some time, it will calm down in your mind and you'll know what to do. Do not make any hasty decisions right now. Just take a deep breath and give it time. You need time to process these news BEFORE you can make any decisions. Things look A LOT more problematic now than they will in a few weeks time.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (27 August 2014):
 Many people experience infertility issues. You are not alone. There are support groups and options for you out there.
Rather than think it's a choice of him or a baby all by natural means, why not just embrace that this is something you will go through because you love him and you want the best outcome in a less than ideal circumstance.
Be thankful there is technology out there that can resolve your desire to bear your and his baby.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (27 August 2014):
 What would be so wrong with having a baby using IVF...
if you are fine and it's just the hubby's sperm, then mixing his ejaculate with that of a donor which is then injected into your uterus while you are ovulating will probably be all you need and then you will never know if it was HIS sperm or the donor sperm... and it will be your baby.
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