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writes:My new girlfriend wants to swing with another couple she and I consider friends. I am very turned on by the the thought of this but worry about the aftermath. The other couple suggested it to my girl so everyone is on board. Has anyone ever done this? Can it happen without things getting messy like jealousy etc..
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (24 March 2010):
 What you see will be forever implanted into your mind. You will not be able to erase those scenes from your mind no matter how hard you try it.
Either one of you will be affected and your relationship will never be the same again.
You are dealing with emotions and feelings which are powerful forces which you may not be able to control.
There is no way back once you swing....
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2010): Love swinging, hate the idea of doing it with freinds other than those you met for swinging. Friends that are freinds prior to swinging should remain non-sexual freinds. If you like these folks, don't sleep with them- it is very likely to change the dynamics. Check out the "swingers board" on the web for a LOT of great advice.If you want to play with them, consider going together to a house party or club and play with other couples together first. If you can make it past that, and after playing separately in the same room, then TALK about it... but I wouldn't jump into bed with them otherwise.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (14 March 2010):
Very rarely does it work out. You only have to read some of the posts on here. I wouldn't recommend it.
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reader, joiney +, writes (13 March 2010):
If it is something you are both equally interested in trying and are both 100% happy with your relationship then there is no reason not to try it, if you do decide to give it a go and either of you find it's not for you then don't carry on, it can cause a rift in a relationship but on the flip side if you both have a good time it can add something extra to your sex life,We have been swinging for 3 years and have met some great friends in the process,Always be sure you are both comfortable with the person/couple you are meeting if you do not know them, have a chat over the webcam or phone (there are idiots out there),Use protection and don't be pressured into doing antyhing you don't want to do, make sure no means no.
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reader, veronika  +, writes (13 March 2010):
 Yes, swinging can happen with little jealousy involved, but you need to think about what type of person you are. If you feel even slightly uneasy about watching your girlfriend having sex with other people then chances are that feeling of unease with get worse before, after and during. However, if you're turned on by the idea and can imagine it happening and you feel comfortable in your mind about it, then chances are you won't have a big problem.But feelings are delicate, so you and your girlfriend need to set boundaries - like if she's uncomfortable with you kissing someone else, then don't do it, or if you're uncomfortable with her giving head to the other guy, then she needs to respect that. Etc. Your girlfriend also needs to consider this.
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