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*arktd9
writes:I'll try to make this as brief as reasonably possible. I'm 23, and a little over a year ago I was dumped by girlfriend of 6 years. A couple of months before she'd start to see less and less of me, spending a lot more time at the pub, and I found out she'd spent the night with another boy, apparently they only kissed, and I forgave her. We were best friends, as well as boyfriend/girlfriend, and we were each other's first everything. Kiss...and....you know!So this was, pretty devestating to me, and the next day she sent me a text saying she'd started seeing a guy that I was best friends with up until I was about 14. Due to having things thrown in my face from Facebook and the like, I basically cut them out of my life, I heard from other people they'd got engaged and all that, but then he left her for another woman, blah blah.Anyway, a couple of months ago her cousin begged me to talk to her again, saying that she wanted to clear the air etc. I should say at this point, I've not really moved on to anyone else since her, and while I do consider myself "over" her, I'm still pretty hurt by it all. Anyway, eventually I decide to start talking to her on MSN again, and that goes ok, and then we''re facebook friends again, etc, but we still haven't met face to face.I've realised how much she's changed, she's a lot more...outgoing, going out clubbing every weekend, and constantly getting drunk and going on the pull. She even revealed to me how she's sleeping with another guy to try and make him like her enough to go out with her. Which was a bit...startling and painful to learn. I'm kind of at the point where I just think it was better not talking to her at all. It's been kind of nice catching up, and talking about some stuff we have in common, but she doesn't hold back on me, and seems to not realise how much hurt she caused me. I just wondered if anyone had any advice or tips? Because I'm struggling to see a way to continue this messed up friendship type thing!
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reader, marktd9 +, writes (14 October 2010):
marktd9 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks, yeah, you're right, that is pretty much what i was thinking! You're input is greatly appreciated!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (12 October 2010):
Walk away. Explain that you don't think you can be friends anymore, and walk away NOW. You had a chance to make a clean break from her crap, and didn't. Now it's just causing you more pain and no doubt will cause more trouble. Walk away, continue to get over her and just move on and find someone better. You know yourself it's the best thing for you to do.
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