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writes:Im 32 years old and my bf is 21..weve been dating for 6 months now. I love him and i always show and tell that to him. but im not sure if he loves me, he doesnt say the words 'I love you'..but i can feel that he cares for me..not just by text.he's always there to cheer me up when i'm down and we share our problem and cries together when we feel like it. i'm just confused..i talked to him about this matter and i told him that maybe he didn't love me, and he said that just because he didn't say the word, doesnt mean he dont love me. please help me...i love my bf so much and i want to spend the rest of my life with him..i want to know if he feels the same way too..how can i be sure that he loves me too?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (28 December 2012):
 My husband never says "I love you" He just does not like to say it. I know he loves me however.
I base his feelings for me based on how he treats me, how he takes care of me, how he defends me and helps me. And how he trusts me....
the problem is, he's pretty young (when my husband was 21 I was 34 but we did not meet till he was 37) and he may not be ready to settle down and you are and that may be the biggest problem.
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reader, elise22  +, writes (28 December 2012):
 Actions speak louder than words... He acts like he loves you and even said that just because he doesn't say it, doesn't mean that he doesn't feel it.
I dislike the words 'I love you'. It always feels like such a fake thing to say, because it's something you're supposed to say at a certain point in your relationship. I just can't say it comfortably, and I'm not even sure what objective love is. Everybody defines love differently. Example: a girl friend of mine told a guy she loved him after two weeks of dating, because she felt all fluttery and tingly around him, while my idea of love is more of a committed relationship kind. And saying it is not just personal, it's also making a statement in dating rules.
I'm not saying that this is surely what he thinks, but maybe you should just forget words 'i love you' and think about how you feel and how he treats you.
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