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Article - (27 December 2012) 3 Comments - (Newest, 29 December 2012)
A female United Kingdom age 26-29, xTheAlmightyDuckx writes:

I haven't wrote an article on this site recently and well I think its about time as i'm so valued here that I update my life, and well give everyone an insight to why I came on this site and why I love giving people advice and help.

I came on this site when I was 13 years old, my life had taking a down turn shortly after my uncle passed away, at first I was just looking for help and for someone who could understand what I was going through. I came across this site and saw after asking a few questions you could be an agony aunt.

I had always loved reading agony aunt articles in magazines so thought that this would be perfect.

At first my answers weren't very good, didn't get any kind of ratings and well I felt very insecure as I was only 13 and was attempting to answer people who were in there early 20's and 30's.

I mainly stuck to asking questions and getting advice, but shortly after I turned 14 my life took a huge down turn.

I ended up in hospital due to a mental breakdown after everything really had got to much with my school life, my home life and well social life in general. I had all but one friend, and after i recovered from hospital I developed a anxiety problem that made me unable to leave my home, this was what gave me my passion to help people.

I made a new account named the AlmightyDuck and thought I would now be serious about helping people.

Throughout those dark and lonesome days I had while I was stuck indoors for the best part of a year, I spent alot of my time helping others on this site, It was the only thing at one point that would make me smile, while I was trapped on the inside feeling useless about everything, I felt on this site I could atleast make someone else smile and help somebody and provide support to someone who needed it, I became so inflicted by this site and obligued to help people as unfortunely nobody would or could help me at that point of life, so I felt I was helping people who felt the same as me.

This website however also didn't just become and outlet but also helped me gain confidence and durability to getting were I am today. If it wasn't for some of the amazing people on this site I wouldn't be able to of fought past my anxiety issue and gain the courage I needed to go back into my education which is one of the best decsions I ever made.

Shorlty after my 15th, I had finally gone back to school and life was getting better , my anxiety had improved home life was great now and I had people to talk to and friends. Thats however when I met my first boyfriend.

Considering I had been cooped up for a year, I didn't know anything about boys or relationships apart from the things I had heard on this website.

So I fell in love straight away without considering anything else, I guess even though I didn't see it at the time, this was another down point in my life.

The relationship was not normal, it was controlling and violent mentally (on his side) and physically (on mine and his side) are relationship lasted 9 months untill I eventually had the courage and the will to stand on my own to feet and tell him where to go, it was another brilliant decsion I made as he was nothing but trouble, once again thanks to the people on this website.

I have now grown so strong thanks to the people on here and others in my life, that my aunt died two or three weeks ago, I loved my aunt dearly and she lost her battle to cancer and unfortunely her funeral was today, but thanks to the advice and loving support i've received off some of the people here, I'm dealing with it alot better than I did my uncle and finding that sitting and feeling sorry for yourself won't do anything, and well that used to be my answer to everything.

I also now have a new and wonderful boyfriend who well, has shown me how I should be treated, and I wouldn't have met him unless I hadn't of listened to the people on this webstie and raised my standards as the aunts and uncles have told me many times. ;)

So my message is basically, I want to thank everyone on this website, everyone who has helped me and giving me your wise words of wisdom as you have truely made an ipact on my life and giving me lessons that will last me a life time, I just thought that some of the amazing aunts and uncles should know how they can really change and help someones life (like mine) improve, grow and generally get better.

I would also like to say that from expeirence that there is a tip I would like to share with everyone who reads this, for all of you people who read this.

Life can take many routes, some good and some bad, you can discover things you love and hate, people can hurt you and love you, but at the end of the day, no matter how big a problem is, or no matter what challange you have to face, you can get as much advice and support as possible, but it is your life, and only you and you only can rely on yourself to solve your problem and only you can pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and live to see another day.

Take care, hope everyone all has a wonderful new year xxx Quack.

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A female reader, CindyCares Italy +, writes (29 December 2012):

CindyCares agony aunt Hi AD, I have answered a couple of your questions recently, there was a whole situation with an abusive drug using bf ...I don't remember all the details and I don't quite remember my answers, but I remember that I told you : come on, AD, you have come such a long way- now don't disappoint the Aunts :).

You didn't . You can be very proud of yourself for all what you have learned so far, for how you have developed courage, resilience, and self reliance ( and also common sense, lol, since eventually you ditched the lousy bf )..and we are proud of you too. All the best.

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A female reader, Abella United States +, writes (29 December 2012):

Abella agony auntDear Almighty Duck,

What a lovely article. I had a smile on my face, and felt delighted and happy for you as I read your article from start to finish.

Losing your Uncle meant an extra burden on you.

However I am thrilled to hear you sounding so resiliant. Be very very proud of the inner strength you have been and are marshalling within you.

Let no one underestimate you.

Most impressive and * * * * * 5 stars indeed.

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A female reader, NORA B Ireland +, writes (28 December 2012):

Hi Almighty Duck. How wonderful to read your life experience at such a tender age. Well done you. In helping others you helped yourself.It was a pleasure to read and i know it will again help others .Thank you and the best of llife at all levels. NORA B,

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