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writes:hi. im 17 very shy and unconfident. never had a girlfriend or hardly even spoke to any girls. but since the first day of college i have fallen in love with a beautiful girl. i just cant seem to bring myself to talk to her. ive said a quick hello as im walking passed but thats it. i have spoken to her on facebook alot and i do get the feeling she likes me. i know there is no cure for shyness or any formular to talking to girls but is there any advice that any one could give. its been 4 months and i still havent spoken to her. jsut seeing her makes me nervous. it would be greatly apreciated if anyone could help. i jsut want too get to know her soo much cant stop thinking about her. ive never ever been this way over a girl before. its very upsetting not being able to chat to her.
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reader, dan01462 +, writes (17 January 2010):
dan01462 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your reply but i think im too late. very upsetting but i think shes found someone. im the only one to blame as i was so stupid but thaks anyways :'(
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reader, Plexi  +, writes (16 January 2010):
 I understand how you feel very well..........from both sides. If you have any classes in common, you could email her and ask her if she could help you out if she has time.......if she sais yes, suggest going to a coffee shop to go over the material and see how that goes.
When you say hi "in passing" does she say hi back or at least smile?..............this would be a good sign.
She could be just as shy as you are and hoping that you'll do or say something. Nice girls aren't usually the type that chase after guys so you need to be the innitiator.
Think of it this way. Right now, as it stands you and her are nothing, so the worst thing that could happen is she won't like you back and you will be nothing to each other. BUT she could say yes and you could come out a winner!!!Even if she rejects you you'll still come out ahead because it will have helped you a bit to get over the fear of talking to a girl you like. Each time gets easier and easier so just go for it and send her an email. If you dont have any classes in common then make something up.......(find out what courses she's taking and say something like hey, I'm really having a hard time with.....could you possibly spare half an hour or so to meet me for lunch and go over said problem.
Go for it, you are not any more nervous then the next guy, what you feel is sooooo normal, just step outside yourself for a sec and go for it.
good luck hun!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (16 January 2010):
I was shy when I wanted to speak to a girl. So one day I just literally spoke to her and threw myself into conversation. It worked out nicely, and I'm still with her :). I think you have to be brave now and just talk to her. Easier said than done, but it's better than saying nothing and losing her. When you're on facebook, maybe say you're shy and you'd really like to get to know her more face to face. Then she will understand a bit more.
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