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anonymous
writes:There is this guy and he is 5 years older than me. my parents have forbedin me to talk toi him. I like him a SUPER LOT. and im not shure id i should wait like 2 years to be with him. i really want to but most people thinks it a bad idea. idk what to do. i really want to be with him later on.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (25 June 2010):
 I agree people have advised you AGAINST seeing him for a reason.
You parents were young once, they grew up and in the process learned quite a few things about life, which is most likely Why they are telling you, you can not see this guy. THEY are your parents, it's their JOB to look out for you and keep you safe.
You seem very young and I think it's more of a crush then "love".
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2010): 2 years to wait for someone is not possible especially at your age. Do you really want to put your life on hold for two years while you wait for some guy that everyone tells you is bad news?
Listen to Caring Guy, he's completely correct.
It's illegal for you to do anything sexual with this guy and I mean anything more than a kiss can get him jail time. While you might like this guy enough to think you can wait 2 years to go beyond kissing, it's very unlikely that he'll have that kind of patience. If you think you'll both be able to hold off from that kind of stuff for 2 years you're very wrong.
His minimum age is 21 if your stated age is correct, this means he can legally drink in bars and all that other stuff like that, he's an adult that can go anywhere he wants and stay out as late as he wants and he can legally have sex with anyone he wants. You can't do any of this stuff legally.
Age difference is too much of a factor here, if you were a legal consenting adult 18+ then age wouldn't matter but you're not. You're parents and friends want to protect you because they know that there's too much room here for you to end up in serious trouble.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2010): Maybe you should wait...but at the same time its YOUR life and you should be able to decide on your own who you are gonna be with..its your love life and if you feel like hes the one your looking for then be with him..
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (25 June 2010):
Why is it that your parents have forbidden you to see him. If your parents and other people are saying it's a bad idea, then maybe they can see something you can't about him. When the majority of people say that you shouldn't go out with a guy, usually the majority are right. you need to listen to what they have to say.
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