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writes:I love my wife but I am also in love with her friend. I would give everything i have to be with her friend and don't know whether i should tell her that i have fallen for her. Will she tell my wife, would i be better to tell her to clear my thoughts then if she wants nothing to do with me then at least i know and I can concentrate on my relationship with my wife. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2007): No she did not beat the crap out of me and she did not mention a word to my wife. She just looked at me a little in shock and a little relived. We made love right then and there, and we have not stopped since. Well we have stopped but you know what I mean.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2007): To the anonymous male that whispered to his wifes sister. What the hell were you thinking? Did she beat the crap out of you and than tell your wife and she beat you too?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2007): tell them both at the same time that way there can be no lies & no deceit and you'll all know what the score is. you must not love your wife though. if her friend won't be with you THEN and only then will you concentrate on your wife? Do you even know why you married her? Do you remember your wedding vows? Forsaking all others. You should concentrate on your wife before anything. If you can't then get a divorce then chase her friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2007): I think you should tell your wifes friend to get it off your chest. I know it is killing you when you see her and you dont know how she feels. I know this because I have been there myself. It tore me up until I finally whispered to my wife sister that I was in love with her. Wow was it a good feeling to get it off my chest and let her know. So again I say tell her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2007): tell your wife man. sure it's love and not lust for her friend? Suggest a threesome. that way you don't really do anything wrong, you put it out there. Plus she might tell her friend and be pissed at you for a while, the friend will act disgusted, but then will know you feel that way. The friend might act out on it and try to get with you too. The wife will be so disgusted that she wont care and be glad you're not in the picture. At least it seems like a seinfeld-inspired clever way to get it out there and get some reply back safely. I'm a 24 year old husband and I haven't really had that problem, and will agree, you are thinking of yourself and not your wife, but if you're not really in love with your wife, then why the hell are you with her?
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reader, leanne.od +, writes (19 September 2007):
 how selfish are you? in my opinion you are thinking of yourself and nobody else. you're stringing your wife along and keeping her on hand incase you don't get the outcome you want.tell her friend, at least then your wife will see what kind of insensitive man she is married too. you honestly think your wife's friend will keep it to herself that her husband has declared his undying love for her and when she rejects you, you'll deny all knowledge of telling her and loose your wife her friend and carry on in blissful ignorance. and if she does turn out to be the worlds worst friend and loves you back, how do you think your poor wife is going to feel being dumped by her husband for her friend.she deserves better than you, and you deserve to live a lonely life on your own. do what you want but i can guarantee that you will only be considering your own feeling in the process.your marriage won't continue because she'll see you for what you really are one day, lets just hope it's sooner rather than later.
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