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writes:im 16 and i recently lost my v card to my bf (17) of 3 months. the thing is that i live with my dad and step mom and me and my dad have always been so close n i tell him everything! i feel so guilty for not telln him! and i know its stupid its just he has so much trust in me and im wondering if i should tell my dad the truth but my bf doesnt want me to cuz my dad will kill him! so someone please tell me wat i should do! should i come clean with my dad?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2012): Honestly I would not tell him. Some things are better left as said. As long as you are being SAFE and you are NOT BEING TAKEN ADVANTAGE OF, then keep it on the dl.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2012): OP your dad doesn't want to know, so it would be wrong for you tell him as long as you don't turn up in the near future to tell him you're pregnant then he doesn't need to know.
OP our daughters having sex is an image the vast majority of us guys don't want in our heads.
Did he tell you how good his last blow job was? Did you tell him whether you like the taste of pre-cum? Why not? That's right because it's too much information and you really don't want that mental image in your head.
So do him a favour and leave him innocent to this fact, always have safe sex and he has nothing to worry about. There are some things fathers don't need to know.
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reader, avogado  +, writes (10 June 2012):
Your sex life is your own business and nobody elses. Does your father tell you about his sex life?
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reader, daletom +, writes (10 June 2012):
If you are going to be sexually active at your age, then it's a good idea for SOME responsible adult to know that. That person doesn't need to know every detail - just that you have made the choice to have sex. Hopefully, they will have enough experience to give you good advice regarding your physical and emotional health in this new role.
If your Dad was generally supportive of your decision, he would be a good choice. Other possibilities include an older brother or sister (who can keep it confidential!); a school counselor or favorite teacher; a coach, Scout leader, or other volunteer youth leader; or your doctor, nurse, or medical assistant.
You really should have a routine pelvic exam when you become sexually active. That would be good opportunity to discuss contraception and STD's, establish a "baseline" that your doctor can refer to if any problems develop in the future, and identify whether you have any unusual conditions that may be affected by sexual activity.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (10 June 2012):
 Hon, it's your call. There are some people who have that kind of relationship with their parents, but tbh it's awfully rare. Is there some reason (other than obligation) that you want to tell him? It was a good experience, you're glad you did it, and you want to share that with someone very close to you? OK, then fine. If you think that telling him will do you good, and will keep an awesome relationship with him, again, fine. But if you think that he'll be freaked out at all, that he'll have a problem with your b/f being around the house, think twice.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (10 June 2012):
 Why would you tell him? If you don't feel 100% comfortable talking to him about sex, there's no reason he needs to know. He probably prefers you not tell him anyways, so long as you're being safe (condoms at all times, preferably with a back up of the pill).
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reader, deirdre  +, writes (10 June 2012):
not unless you are pregnant...
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (10 June 2012):
Your Dad doesn't need to know this. He'll probably be aware of it anyway, since you do have a boyfriend and no doubt there will be a slight change in behaviour etc. But I don't think you need to tell him. It might make everything a little tense.
Your sex life is for you and your boyfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2012): Don't tell him about it at all. And also there's no way of him finding out whether u r really virgin or not. U know very well how furious he may get if he comes to know about the issue. So u must think only about what u want to achieve as ur goal in the future. Just think whether u really need a BF relationship at this age.
HAVE A WELL-PLANNED FUTURE!
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