A
female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:My ex(it's been two weeks since he left,he broke it off) spoke to me last Tuesday 5 days ago (for my birthday). We had a nice chat and at the end of the conversation he asked me if I was sleeping with anyone which I thought this was strange as it has only been two weeks since he left. So I am thinking he cares about me and we can hopefully get our relationship back on track. I love him so much and really need to know if I should text him and just keep it simple by saying I miss you and love you so much just to let him know and see if he replys. This is really hurting me right now and feel I just need to let him know my feelings.
View related questions:
broke up, my ex, text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, CMMP  +, writes (21 April 2013):
I would say that if you start telling him you love him and miss him you'll sound a little desperate and that might turn him off.
I'd cease all contact with him. If he wants you he knows where to find you. He's probably well aware that you miss him and love him so, at this point, it's better left unsaid.
Not only will not contacting him help with healing it'll make him wonder why you're over him and maybe start to miss you.
If he starts to indicate he's interested in giving things another shot you can't just run back to him. You have to be somewhat distant and make him earn you back. If you don't he'll likely lose interest. It's a careful psychological issue, but time tested for generations.
You, however, need to ask yourself why you broke up with him and if anything can be fixed. If not don't waste your time because he'll just break up with you again.
A
female
reader, Brokenv  +, writes (21 April 2013):
For your healing process do NOT text/call or email him. He is not asking that question to see if you want to get back together. He is just being nosey.
If he loved and missed you, he would say that. You need to move forward in your life. You two broke up for a reason.
Good Luck!
...............................
A
female
reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (21 April 2013):
 Depends on the reasons you split up in the first place?
Him asking you if you are sleeping with someone is a bit disrespectful to be honest!...it doesn't mean he cares, it just means he is being nosy, because even if a guy dumps you, he will still like to think he has tabs on you (some women also do this)
You are obviously hurt, so he's either dumped you or you have dumped him for bad behaviour, whatever the reason, it's only been 2 weeks so neither of you has had any proper time to mull over what happened and whether it is right to start it up again.
If you dumped him for bad behaviour, DO NOT text to say you love and miss him because this makes you weak, gives him all the power and also gives him licence to come back and still treat you badly!!
If he dumped you, texting him will only make him assume you still have worth to him and he may come back and use you.
That said if you really want an opportunity to speak to him about what happened...phone him and ask him to meet you somewhere, so you can air your thoughts and see where he stands.
You are adults so you should be able to talk it out as adults...and if it looks like things will go bad again, be a adult and walk away xx
...............................
|
