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writes:Very serious question. When I was dumped, I had a difficult time on focusing on my school work. Not only that, but, I was so hurt, I : nearly flunked a VERY important test (I didn't finish it. But, I had a second chance, and passed the test.), AND I NEARLY, and, I mean, NEARLY, lash out verbally, as she immediately went to someone else. (The dumb thing is, when she dumped me, she said, and, I quote, that, "She wasn't ready for a relationship. Humph! What a liar!). I didn't, though, as I thought/hoped that I was going to be taken back.Boy, was I wrong!At any rate, the dumper wanted to be friends with me - oblivious to all these things going on. But, question is, should I go ahead and practically say "Oh, sure! I'll be your friend! (Even though I went through so much (Insert curse word)-ing pain!) It just will be an honor, just having this metaphorically tasteless kind of pizza!", or should I say that I won't have anything to do, with her?In my eyes, when the result of someone's actions makes somebody imagine that they're calling the other person names in their sleep, it's just very, very wrong!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI recently told her sbout a friend of mine, who was dying from Cancers. I told my ex that I was worried, about this friend. Her response? "Don't talk like that!" …… What a heartless (Bleep!)!
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (14 August 2012):
 I agree that I think a clean break from her is the best. However, I think you need to own your own actions. She didn't make you fail.
Pretending to be friends with someone you still have strong feeling for isn't healthy.
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reader, ChiRaven +, writes (14 August 2012):
 From the way you outline the situation, it seems to me that you NEED a clean break from this woman. You will eventually be vey glad that you did not lash out, but neither would it be good to remain either in limbo or in this person's life. One of the best courses open to you is probably to explain (the next time circumstances force you into contact with her) that you believe that both of you would be better off moving on, and that you prefer to do that on your own. Do this respectfully, but let her know that this is your final decision in the matter. And wish her well.
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