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writes:My husband and i separated in September 2010. We have two small children and have stayed in contact and continued to have sex frequently. We were both trying to "work" out our issues. He just recently moved back and we decided we would give it another shot. I found out he had unprotected sex with a woman he works with - he says it was just a few weeks after he left, however, i really cant be sure. He never told me this before we continued to have unprotected sex. Also I believe he and this woman had a minor relationship and I feel like he only came back because things with her didn't work out. now we have 2 very small children and i want my family back. My husband is a good father and an excellent provider and up until this separation was a great husband. I want this to work out and I am trying hard to forgive and forget. I can not stop thinking about him making love to the other woman! Sleeping next to her and kissing her passionately the way he kisses me! UGH! I know he put my health and his own at risk and i am dealing with the forgiveness on that. How do i forget what he did?? Am i stupid to not send him packing again?!? I love him and want my family together. Please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2010): Seek mariage therapie. If you still have feels for him and he has has feeling for you and you both want to work it out them you are not ready for a divorce! Fight for your marriage. Good people some times make big mistakes. Don't let him off easy though. He needs to be accountable for what he's done. But seeking professional help is best. And if it doest work out you can walk away knowing you did everthing you did and never wonder "what if".
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reader, Tbosse  +, writes (8 December 2010):
 Give him another chance. Everyone has their downfall.he realized he was making a mistake by 'staying away'...just get STD tested.you dont wanna raise your kids without their father...please just let it go and start afresh.goodluck
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2010): I wouldn't take him back, either. If he really loved you, he wouldn't have gone off with some other woman; he would have done anything to get you back (plus, it's not like he wasn't getting any). If he really loved you, he REALLY wouldn't have had unprotected sex with her, let alone allowed the unprotected sex to go on with you afterward. You both need to go get tested.
It seems he has no regard for your feelings or your health. What if he gave you an STD? What if he got the other woman pregnant?! You have to wonder why these thoughts never entered his mind. I'm not sure how he went from great husband to this, but it's obvious his feelings for you are pretty much nonexistent. I don't think he's worth the hassle of forgiving him and getting over the other woman, if that is even possible.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2010): if i was you he would be gone for good. think about it. he will fall into temptation. good luck. get out as quick as u can.
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