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Should I send him online pictures?

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Question - (21 June 2011) 3 Answers - (Newest, 22 June 2011)
A female Australia age 26-29, anonymous writes:

I met this guy on the internet. At first I wasnt me in the pictures and they were another prettier girl. When I realized I started liking him I told him and apologized by an ecard. We were just friends but he was angry and demanded to see 5 pictures of me. I honestly don't have that many so I sent him 2 cards and 2 pictures on separate days.

Then I saw online on the same website were he told this girl that was mean to me because she likes him (but he doesn't know she likes him). He posted saying you won't believe what she sent to me and I couldn't read her response since we are not friends but then he posted that was one of two!

I don't know if it's the pictures or the cards I sent trying to apologize and explain it to him. However I am feeling upset because I feel shy and that showing pictures is a personal thing. Don't worry I would never send anything naughty, or too sexy online. I am just shy and don't feel comfortable posting personal info Any and Everyone can see! I don't know why he would feel the need to show them to her.......especially since she was rude, called me ugly, and yet wanted me to go on camera to talk with her.

I want him to be happy and not angry with me. I have several questions really......should I send him more pictures? Maybe if I send him 5 like he asked he will not be angry with me. Also why would he want to show them to this girl or tell her about the apology I sent? It seems idk.......weird to me

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A female reader, person12345 United States +, writes (22 June 2011):

person12345 agony auntI understand not wanting to send photos to some random guy on the internet, but at the same time if you plan on dating someone you shouldn't deceive them. Kind of gets off on the wrong foot. I think the whole thing is just too weird to be worth pursuing. I'd drop it and find a new guy, a flesh and blood one. And I certainly wouldn't send photos to someone who demands them.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (22 June 2011):

Honeypie agony auntUm, first instinct here is to just drop him.

However, I understand why he got mad. If you sent a picture of some "chick" and pretended it was you in the picture, you lied and deceived him. That tends to make people mad. Though I get the whole not wanting to send your photo to just anyone who asks. So in the future, don't pass other girl's pictures off as YOU. Because.. it's not.

How well do you know the guy? I really wouldn't trust him with 5 "real" pictures of you. Specially if you aren't sure he won't use them to make fun of you in some way.

Chalk this up to a learning experience and be honest and truthful in the future. If you feel shy about sharing pictures, tell them that. They can wait til they get to know you, it ain't going to kill them.

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A female reader, Tisha-1 United States +, writes (22 June 2011):

Tisha-1 agony auntIt IS weird. I'd say drop him as a friend. Don't send pictures to anyone unless you have spent some time together! I think there's a high likelihood that most of these types of blackmail picture extractions end badly for the females involved.

Dump him!

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