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writes: We've been in touch on Facebook for nearly 3 months. We've had loads of different conversations, some serious, emotional and fun. After so much talking we finally met up for the evening. And he was a lovely guy, although he is 34 and I am 25, he was very shy, and a little tense during the date, but it was a cute date, and he told me he had a wonderful time and I told him the same. Now he has made no mention of meeting again, however he has been speaking to me non stop on facebook since the date, so I assume there's interest? But its getting to a point that our conversations are getting boring, and annoying. He keeps asking questions to keep the conversation going but, they seem to be getting more like pointless questions, almost like he has nothing else to ask. So he repeats my answer and puts it into a question if that makes sense. He also asked me "whens your birthday?" so i told him, and asked why and he said "so I can get the fire brigade on hold for all those candles"...Just says silly jokes to me. I really like him and want to see him again, but I shouldn't have to encourage him. For our first date he asked me to to tell him when I was free to meet up, so why should I make the effort twice? I thought he DID feel the same for me. Or is he just not good at flirting/talking with girls? Im going away for over a week now, and he knows i'll be busy, but I wanted to give him my number to see if he'd text but wouldn't he just continue with the same old stuff? Or should I just ignore him? See if he changes his ways?
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reader, Sensible Alice  +, writes (2 March 2014):
 I don't get why some women need the man to make all the moves. I see so many of my lady friends missing out on opportunities that could have been taken if they'd just been a bit more forthright and asked the man out themselves. I know it's great to have a man ask you out, but some of them are just too shy to do it or don't know how to do it or they're unsure if you really like them or they're afraid of being rejected. Just ask him!
As for his pointless and repetitive questions, from my experience that's pretty normal. I've had men ask something that I've already told them twice. I can only surmise that they don't take as much notice or they forget or they don't have as good a memory as we do, LOL. Give him your number, but maybe lower your expectations of what he'll say in a text and just be happy that he's keeping in touch.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2014): i think he's just shy, and nervous. maybe he thinks your not nervous. so give him your number thats always a better way to speak to someone
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reader, Gauntlet  +, writes (13 February 2014):
 If you really feels something for him, don't play that game of "he should" or "he should have" or "he could have" or "he might think" or "it's his turn to" or "it's his role to" or anything like that.It's too soon to tell it, but imagine if this sweet guy is the man of your life, the ONE who will make your whole life happy. Doesn't he deserve you act more actively, not in place of him, but for you BOTH. By the way, women don't stop screaming they want to be considered as equal as men, consequently they have to show they can take control of some situations without wondering themselves why it's not the man who doesn't do this and that and blablabla.We are talking here of your happiness, not about buying or not a new television. That deserves a little bit more autonomy, don't you think ?
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