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writes:On saturday I went to my best friends place, she's a very attractive woman, she's straight and has a boyfriend, but she knows I'm bisexual and single. We got drunk and I already felt like she was flirting. Then we went to a party and she started to dance towards me very closely and in a seductive way and we started to kiss. Her boyfriend was there and saw it but I guess he didn't mind too much. When I left the party, she kissed me again and hugged me, then said she doesn't want this to put our friendship in danger. So I promised I'd blame it on the alcohol, but at the same time I said it wasn't true, and told her she's the most beautiful woman and I would love to go down on her right now and that if she ever wants to cheat on her boyfriend, she knew where to find me. It was the alcohol that made me say it but I felt like every word was the truth at that moment. Now I feel this is all twisted. I guess she just wanted to try out how it would feel to kiss a girl and she thought I'd be cool with it, since us bisexual people are all promiscuous and openminded, no? But for me it was a great moment and I'd been fantasizing about this to happen so many times. I don't want to be overly emotional but I feel like it's going to be hard for me to go back to friendship-mode. I'm bi but I'm not just about random sex and kissingl, I've got a heart, too.What should I do? Should I just try to play it down, make fun of it, blame it on being drunk and try to keep some of my dignity? Or should I try to be honest and say I put a little more feeling into all this than her, even if that will make things awkward? I'm scared to lose a friend. But I'm also pissed that she was so seductive, knowing that I'm drunk, and knowing for sure that I find her beautiful, then at the same time making sure her boyfriend is around so I know she'll be going home with him.. oh well I feel pathetic.
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reader, Kyra23  +, writes (2 April 2013):
I'm glad I helped! Things get better when they're clear. Talking isn't easy but it's the best solution.
If she's also confused about the kiss I guess only time will say what's gonna happen...anyway I wish you luck on your future.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDear Kyra,
Thanks a lot for being the only one that actually answered my question and for giving such good advice.
I talked to her today and I feel much better now. But what even makes me feel better, is that our kiss has confused her as well ;) I guess we can save the friendship, although I really feel I need to kill those butterflies in my stomach now.
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reader, Kyra23 +, writes (2 April 2013):
She is playing with your feelings! My best friend did the same to me. She knows I'm bi, she wants to experiment with women. She likes to flirt with me but at the same time she's in and out of a relationship with a guy and used to tell me about all her straight drama. Don't worry about the awckwardness just tell her you have feelings and you're not willing to be her toy. I've done this this with my bestfriend and now she respects me in a totally different way. In time you'll find someone who loves you the way you deserve.
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