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Should I tell my parents that I think I might be bisexual?

Q.   hiya, I'm 15 and a lil confused. I'm not really sure, but I think I maybe bi-curious. It may just be a phase I'm going through? Should I tell my parents or keep it to myself until I'm totally sure? Thank you x...

A.   12 February 2006: i wouldn't tell them. Heaps of people have feelings for both sexes when they're young- some of these feelings lead to actual experimentation/ relationships and some don't. But' I'm with the others on this one. There is no need to talk about this ... (read in full...)

Would it be better for me to have sex with another virgin, or with the girl who I'm in love with?

Q.   Hi, I am 16 years old and just met this wonderful girl who I am in love with. However she does not seem to feel the same way. I am still a virgin and she rather prefers a sexual relationship. I know she slept with other men before and I w...

A.   28 December 2005: hi there, i think regardless of whether the person you sleep with for the first time is a virgin or not, it IS importnant that they rspect you, and respect your virginity and how you feel about it. Make sure it's someone who cares about you. best of ... (read in full...)

I don't feel like I compare to my boyfriends hot, female friends...

Q.   My boyfriend and I have recently began dating. Now that I am meeting his friends etc I can't help but be jealous of his very hot female friends. I have always been self conscious of the way I look. Although lots of people tell me I'm pretty, I still ...

A.   25 December 2005: i bet all his hot female friends are subconscious about there looks too!! I mean, come on... aren't most chicks?! But the differnece is- confidence. confidence is really attractive. Be confident. focus on your positive features and be proud of what ... (read in full...)

Who should I date...my ex bf or this other guy?

Q.   My Ex Boyfriend and I just broke up like 4 or 5 days ago. Well I still really like him and he likes me to but I like this other guy. He is REALLY sweet and tells me im beautiful and other stuff, but he lives like 30 minutes away. And he is afraid to ...

A.   12 December 2005: 30 minutes is nothing! Anyway, regardless of that NEVER date the ex. Don't live in the past move to the future. Anyway, aren't you broken up with your ex? so why would you date him again? It obviously wasn't working. This new guy sounds great. Good ... (read in full...)

No confidence with girls because I feel so short!

Q.   I'm currently 15, 16 soon and have had 1 tiny growing spurt this year. Everytime I grow, everyone else seems to tower above me. When will I have my growth? I don't want to remain tiny all my life! I have no confidence with anything especially girls ...

A.   11 December 2005: hi there, firstly- you are so young- it is too early to tell whether you are going to grow or stay the size you are- so please don't worry about the future when you don't know what it holds! :) As for the present.. height is a factor in some ... (read in full...)

No guy can live up to my boyfriend who died 8 years ago..I just can't feel love. Help

Q.   I think my heart evaporated! I am 24 and at age 16 my boyfriend died in a car accident. I think he might have been my soulmate. I have never been able to feel love since I just never feel anything. I have him on a pedestal and no one has ever come ...

A.   7 December 2005: hello, i am sorry to hear about your loss. Often when a relationship ends due to circumstances such as death, or one person moving cities etc (instead of a break up which has more closure and a reason such as someone cheating etc) it is harder to ... (read in full...)

Should I find a random girl to kiss, just to get me started?

Q.   Hi, I am 18 and have never had a girlfriend and never even kissed a girl. Do you think it would be good for me to pull a random girl in a club to boost my confidence? I have always thought that my first kiss would be (with someone) special. What do ...

A.   2 December 2005: hi there, i am a chick in my mid twenties. My first pash was not til I was 19. It was with someone I really cared about at the time and also someone I later slept with for the first time. Before my first kiss I was really nervous (and yes, there ... (read in full...)

Can you be in love with someone yet cheat on them?

Q.   Is it possible for a bloke to cheat on his wife/ fiance and still be in love with her? Can you still be in love with someone and cheat on them?...

A.   30 November 2005: if you really loved someone you wouldn't cheat on them. cheating is a way of sabotaging/ getting out of a relationship- even if this isnt evident at the time or may not seem like it. would you cheat on someone you loved? i know i wouldnt. best wi... (read in full...)

Is it right for me to want to get back with my ex?

Q.   Hi there, recently my ex, who i had a 2 year relationship with, came back into my life after a year without talking because his girlfriend had ended with him. We had a lovely time and we got on very well, ive offered to be his shoulder to cry on and ...

A.   29 November 2005: Please DON"T do it. You are better than that. Is your self esteem and respect so low that you don't mind being used? Please, you will just end up getting more hurt and opening wounds. Do it if you want, but don't expect people to have much sympathy... (read in full...)

Can a book make a girl dump a boy?

Q.   my girlfriend has just bought a book called is he realy just that into you she told me that 6 of her girlfriends had red it and they all broke up with their boyfriends now i am sceard she will leave me how can a book do this for all these girls to ...

A.   28 November 2005: he he he i've read this book it's great! Basically the book is saying that if your boy doesn't call, make an effort, go out of his way for you the he really isn't that into you- so you should leave your boy and find someone who is into you! yeah so ... (read in full...)

Why are some men not afraid to have sex during a women's menstrual cycle?

Q.   This is a weird question, but I am very curious about it. Why is is that some men are not afraid to have sex during the girlfriends cycle, while some guys won't get near you? I know it is a very personnel matter. I just don't understand it. ...

A.   28 November 2005: Not all guys like to wear a dolmio grin. yeah it's weird aye? none of my friends' boy friedns care, they just go for it. My ex was really scared though. Personally I'm sick of guys who have a problem with it- most of them are young anywyay. I mean ... (read in full...)

Afraid that guys will be turned off by my pubic hair!

Q.   I am so afraid that guys will be turned-off by my pubic hair. I don't know what I am supposed to do. Should I shave? Should I wax? Or just let it grow into a horrible looking bush? What do most women do? Does this really gross out guys?...

A.   26 November 2005: It really upsets me that people are telling you that it will turn guys off and relating what to do in terms of what strippers do. Are you a stripper? I don't think so. It is a very western thing to not be happy with hair- something so normal and ... (read in full...)

I gave my virginity to my boyfriend 3 years ago so will he notice I had sex with someone else, recently?

Q.   i broke my viginity 3yrs ago and i'm still with the same guy. today i had sex with someone else. will my boyfriend of 3years notice that i had sex with someone else! i've only known him....

A.   25 November 2005: maybe the question you should be asking is not "can he tell" but why did you do it? People cheat on their partners for a reason- even if it isnt clear at the time. He wont be able to tell physically, but he might be able to tell in other ways. I ... (read in full...)

13 years old and I want a boyfriend

Q.   hello i am 13 an i am so very woried that i havn't snogged a boy every one else in my year have and i have only ever had one real boyfreind what should i do because i realy want to get off with a boy but none of the boys at skool like me and i dont ...

A.   24 November 2005: i am 23 and i didnt kiss someone til i was 17! That was fine with me. I'm not saying it'll be the same with you but gee wizz, you're only 13! Peer pressure seems to be the only reason that you want to do it- surely you're stronger than that?... (read in full...)

I want to get over my ex. It's been two years!

Q.   Hello, I need to have some advice on how you get over someone. Have poeple out there had experiences of being really into someone and then it all turning to Sh*t and then not being able to get over them? I have been trying to get over my guy for TWO ...

A.   21 November 2005: Time heals but I think you need to try to not see him- as distance heals to, and without it the wound will keep re opening. I know that itl be hard but itll be worth it in the long run. Good luck!!... (read in full...)

My ex keeps breaking my heart, but I see him every day!

Q.   Hello, I am in a lot of pain. My ex broke up with me 3 years ago- it was very heart breaking as he was my first everything- sex, love etc. One of the reasons we broke up was because he was moving to a different city. I have now moved to that city ...

A.   21 November 2005: Yes, I think that not seeing him again is a good idea. Ive been in the same position before. You can keep trying to get things from him- answers, friendship, whateevr, but at the end of the day if he doesnt want to give it to yuo then he wont and ... (read in full...)

I'd like to ask my girlfriend to shave...

Q.   I've been with my girlfriend for not that long and just started to have sex, but she doesn't shave. It doesnt bother me that much but I would prefer it if she did shave. How can I approach this problem?...

A.   19 November 2005: where do you want her to shave? legs, arms, bikini line?... (read in full...)

Should I be bothered by her keeping a photo of her ex-boyfriend in her wallet?

Q.   Hello. I am 24, as is my girlfriend. We've been dating for about 3 months now and things are going very well. The other day we were at the mall and when she pulled out her wallet to pay for something, she pulled out a photo of her ex-boyfriend...

A.   18 November 2005: hi there, it was weird that it was there but it als looks like she genuinely had forgotten it was there. Now the picture is in an albulm so you can forget about it. If the picture was still in her wallet or if she had a picture of him on her wall or ... (read in full...)

Does my ex want to be back together, or is it more a friends-with-benefits sort of thing?

Q.   Dating great guy for 8 months. He broke up with me 4 weeks ago. He was very honest and open with his feelings. He said he just didn't feel like I was the one. He wasn't in love with me enough etc. etc. I agreed since I felt the same. All the ...

A.   15 November 2005: He just broke up with you and told you "you're not the one" and now you think he likes you again? I bet you're a really awesome chick, but please!!!! He'll be missing you and missing the sex. If you get rejected againn you'll feel TWICE as worse. ... (read in full...)

My longtime boyfriend wants to experience sex with someone else, just so he knows what it's like...

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for 15 months. I'm 19, he's 20. We were both virgins when we started the relationship and it's also the first real relationship each of us have ever had. We are in love and even though we are both young we ...

A.   15 November 2005: what he is suggesting is really wrong. what would he think/ do if you suggested you go out and sleep with someone?! He would be insanely jealous just at the thought, and how it would eat at him after the act? It will be no different for you. If you ... (read in full...)

Go with the current boyfriend, or reconsider my ex?

Q.   I am having a rough time right now. I am divorced and currently dating a younger man. The problem is my ex still wants me back and I still care for him. I don't know what to do because I also care for the guy I am currently with. I feel like ...

A.   15 November 2005: NEVER date the ex. ... (read in full...)

Should I risk going out with the guy with the reputation?

Q.   Im a 17 year old girl who hasn't really had a boyfriend before and there's this guy at my school who has a reputation for having been out with a LOT of girls. I'm definately attracted to him but many girls are. I get the impression that he wants to...

A.   9 November 2005: Hi there, my first boyfirend was JUST like this guy. I try to live my live with "no regrets" but I do feel like my guy was dishonest and took me for a ride. It sounds like exactly the same situation as you. I am not saying dont trust, but be care... (read in full...)

My husband has said he wants to wait to have sex... until we're 60!

Q.   I am 24 and my husband is 29. I promised to him that we would not have sex until we were married, as we are both virgins. Now he's saying that he doesn't want sex with me until we're in our early 60s - and I find it odd. He said to me that he me...

A.   5 November 2005: yes, i can see why you are concerned. I think you two really need urgent marriage councelling. The major thing a couple must have in common in order to have a healthy, successful relationship is a coomon understanding of what they both want for ... (read in full...)

I'm going to visit my online bf in Spain. Should I finish it with him because of the distance?

Q.   I've been in a relationship with this boy for just over two months. He's 4 years older than me and the biggest problem is that he lives in Spain. I know it seems stupid but I never felt like this about anyone before. It's really hurting my parents ...

A.   3 November 2005: have you ever met this guy or is this an internet thing? if you havent met him then it is not a relationship it is a fantasy. if you have met him then I respect your feelings for him but you are too young to fly to spain for someonE!! good luck.... (read in full...)

After I took him back, he started treating me as badly as before!

Q.   My ex left me and dated another girl a while later when he said he didn't want a relationship. He's treated me like dirt and is indecisive about what he wants. He was all nice and wanted to work things out, but now he's back to being a jerk and is ...

A.   3 November 2005: Hi there, I have been in exactly the same place as you before, and I'm only just coming out of it now!! It is very difficult but you have to give up any hope that you will ever be happy together. this is very hard to digest but it is the truth- ... (read in full...)

Eighteen months until my girlfriend gets back. She says not to wait...

Q.   My girlfriend's just left to travel round the world for 18 months on her own, as part of a overlanding tour group. It's been a dream of hers for ages and she'd sort of planned to go before we got together properly. I know she loves me but she said ...

A.   30 October 2005: Hi there, you are going to get very hurt if you wait for her. She has been very generous in telling you exactly how she feels!! I'm sure she loves you- I bet she loves you heaps! But there are some things people HAVE to do. An OE is a big and ... (read in full...)

Is it fair that I'm left alone so my girlfriend can be with her family at Christmas?

Q.   M26 F20, My partner of 3 years wants to spend Christmas and her 21st birthday with her family (she was born on Christmas day). We have just moved to a new town which is 14 hours drive from her parents' house. I have two problems, 1. She knows th...

A.   30 October 2005: is the reason that you guys cant both go cos of money? Get a loan!!! This is her 21st, man!!! thats a big event, and she should be able to do it however she pleases! And if she wants to be with her family then thats great! It is a family time- they ... (read in full...)

I caught my 10-year-old daughter masturbating!

Q.   I hope you can help me with this because i just dont know what to do! I have a 10 year old daughter who is very happy- go lucky and has lots of friends. Last week i walked into her bedroom to find her straddling her bedcorner and thrusting. I told ...

A.   30 October 2005: She's obviously quite sexually curious and aware, which is healthy. I was pretty naieve at that age but every one is different. It may be earlier than you'd like to have the "sex talk" but she may need it soon. I never got one from my mum, but she ... (read in full...)

My wife said she'd been with 15 guys before me, but it turns out to have been 50!

Q.   Before I got married I asked my wife about her sexual past and I shared mine with her. She told me she was with 15 guys or so. That was twice as many partners as I had and I thought as long as she was honest upfront that would be fine. I asked ...

A.   28 October 2005: Hi there, her past shouldnt be a problem, as a marriage is about the present an looking forward (although some men do get put out by a women's sexual past) HOWEVER a marriage is ALSO about trust! Noit only was she dishonest to you about her past but ... (read in full...)

I made a bad choice when I was drunk and now my girlfriend won't trust me any more...

Q.   I am 24 and around May I found the girl I want to spend the rest of my life with. I moved in with her after about 3 months of dating. Everything was going great, up until about three weeks ago, when I went out with my friends one night, and I got ...

A.   28 October 2005: you didnt cheat on her, did you? I don't know if that person means unfaithful as in cheating or as in letting her down. ... (read in full...)

I keep changing boyfriends. I can't decide which one to be with!

Q.   I am in relationship with this great guy Mark. We have been together 2 1/2 yrs and we have had our ups and downs. A little over a yr ago I started to fall for one of my friends at work, Dane. We have known each other for 4 yrs at the time and we d...

A.   28 October 2005: I don't think you deserve either of them. But you obviously know that cos that's why you feel so guilty. get your life sorted out so that you don't bring your sh't into your relationships!! I know this sounds harsh but do you really expect sympathy ... (read in full...)

It's time to break up, but I want to do it gently...

Q.   I have been with my girlfriend for 7 months but things haven't been going well lately. I want to split up with my girlfriend but I don't want to hurt her. How can I let her down easily?...

A.   26 October 2005: Firstly, know that it is going to be difficult no matter how you do it, and secondly, know that she is likely to get upset no matter how you do it; with those things out of the way the whole thing seems a lot easier! Now, the next thing to do is w... (read in full...)

Is my boyfriend secretly hooking up with his exes?

Q.   I am stuck in a rut!! My boyfriend is really getting to me. I got a call two weeks ago from his ex to say she was out for dinner with him and talking about getting back together. On the night in question he did not answer his calls for 3 hours, he ...

A.   26 October 2005: sounds dodgy. trust your instincts on this one. there seems to be an overwhelming stack of evidence which makes him seem really guilty. Do you want to ring one of the exes and just ask them out right? I know it is hard to leave him if you're not ... (read in full...)

Is the second time the charm for us?

Q.   Went out with this girl briefly about a year ago but she split up with me. I've fallen in love with her, but do you think we could go out again despite not working the first time?...

A.   26 October 2005: doubt it, but good luck trying! The thing is, if it doesnt work out again you'll feel a lot worse than you do now. Does she even want to get back together? Probably best to fall in love with someone else!! best wishes. xx... (read in full...)

He cheated and the other woman might be pregnant. Do I cut my losses and move on, or forgive him?

Q.   My boyfriend of 2 years has just admitted to cheating on me and possibly getting someone else pregnant. I am devestated yet still in love with him. Should I forgive him and try to work on our relationship or just move on with my life?...

A.   26 October 2005: yip, Pops is right. Get out. It'll be hard now, and painful but sooo much better in the long run. Not only did he cheat on you but he obviously didnt use protection if he mightve got the chick pregnant, and he is obviously till in touch with the ... (read in full...)

I made a bad choice when I was drunk and now my girlfriend won't trust me any more...

Q.   I am 24 and around May I found the girl I want to spend the rest of my life with. I moved in with her after about 3 months of dating. Everything was going great, up until about three weeks ago, when I went out with my friends one night, and I got ...

A.   26 October 2005: Hi there, losing her Dad is obviously a big thing, and it has probably made her get more worried about things than she used to because she is probably worried that she will lose somthing else she cares about (ie YOU!!), so its good that you realise ... (read in full...)

My online guy says he won't use a condom when we meet because he's too big!

Q.   I'm 17 and this guy is 25, we haven't met but have talked about meeting. I'm a virgin, and we have talked about having sex alot and had cyber sex. He says that he has a 9" penis when erect, (I don't know whether he's telling the truth), and he s...

A.   24 October 2005: ok, i'm guesing pops is a male.. maybe i'm mistaken, but anyway his advice is from a very male perspective. Hymen shcmymen! Yes, technically virginity has something to do with the hymen, but does tht mean if you're 10 years old and you fall off your ... (read in full...)

I know he just wants me for sex, but when I see him I turn to jelly...

Q.   I have been seeing this lad on and off for about 2 months and I have really fallen for him, but he brags about how many girls he has been sleeping with lately. I try to hide the fact I'm bothered but really I am. Obviously all he wants me for is s...

A.   24 October 2005: don't see him so you can't look at him and turn to jelly! You know you are being used so you can do one of two things: prove to everyone that you think so little of yourself that you are happy to get walked over, or... get out! please choose the ... (read in full...)

My online guy says he won't use a condom when we meet because he's too big!

Q.   I'm 17 and this guy is 25, we haven't met but have talked about meeting. I'm a virgin, and we have talked about having sex alot and had cyber sex. He says that he has a 9" penis when erect, (I don't know whether he's telling the truth), and he s...

A.   24 October 2005: ew yuck this guy sound like a loser. Get AWAYYY from him. He's obviously been sleeping with heaps of chicks without condomns (otherwise he wouldnt keep trying to get away with it) and so you probably will catch something really grotty. And I've had ... (read in full...)

Just discovered that my girlfriend cheated 18 months ago and I can't stop thinking about it!

Q.   I am 21 and my girlfriend is 18. We have dated for almost 4 years and she just admitted to me that she cheated on me about 1 and a half years ago. I can't sleep at night and I am always thinking about it and getting frustrated about it. What should ...

A.   24 October 2005: Hello! Sorry to hear about your situation. A similar situation was posted up a few weeks ago, and I think this advice will help you too. :) I guess there are two things here. 1) do you want to stay with someone who has cheated on you and hurt you ... (read in full...)

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