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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi all, I'd like some advice please. I am currently trying for a baby for a year and I have made an appointment with my OB gyne and my husband has already done a semen analysis, and we will find out the results at the appointment. Anyhow, I do a part time course at a local community college, and today the STI clinic people where in the reception area, encouraging people to do swabs to see if they are chlamydia positive. They stopped me and my friend, and we listened to what they had to say because we didnt want to be rude, but they got very,very pushy. I explained that I couldnt possibly have chlamydia, as I had only ever had unprotected sex with my husband, who was a virgin when we met. She said he could be lying or cheating on me and I needed to to the swab. I said no, I didnt think it was necessary. Not to mention the whole thing was very indiscreet, and Id have had the walk of shame carrying the swab back to them. I dont want my fellow students to see me get an STI test done. They brow beat my friend into taking the test, and I am now really paranoid that I could have gotten the disease before I met my husband. I have had two sex partners before him, both whom I have only slept with once and they both wore condoms. I refused to sleep with them if they didnt. While I know the risk is low, they have me worried now. I cant help but wonder if this could be why weve struggled to concieve all along. How would I tell my husband, he would think I have cheated! The only other explanation, they told me is that he had cheated on me, and I would be devastated if that happened. I wish I had taken the test now, to be sure, but the reason I didnt is because I am already up to a hundred worrying about my husbands result, so I couldnt cope waiting on that as well all week long. What do you guys think, am I stupid for passing the test up when I had the chance, or was I right to not allow myself to be pressured into something I didnt want to do?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (10 February 2015):
 Just get the test done, it's really such a small matter, and it will give you peace of mind. If you have chlamydia the real problem here is NOT where you got it from, but the fact that it can harm your fetus and cause defects. You can also become infertile. Which, in the bigger picture, are two reason who by far outweigh your reasons not to get tested.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (10 February 2015):
 Yes, get tested for chlamydia, but do a full STD panel with your OB/GYN - she most likely will suggest that anyways. To eliminate reasons why you haven't conceived yet.
Chlamydia CAN leave women infertile. My FAVORITE aunt had Chlamydia for years undetected, and when she met my uncle and tried for kids, well they found out she no longer could HAVE kids, DUE to Chlamydia. Untreated, about 10-15% of women with chlamydia become infertile. As it can cause PID pelvic inflammatory disease PID is an infection of the womb (uterus), ovaries and fallopian tubes. However the risk of infertility is reduced if PID is treated early.
So yes, getting tested for THAT IS important. Doing a FULL panel is just smart.
And like Tisha said, NO LYING to the OB/GYN. It will ONLY hinder, not help.
To the male nonny.. SHE didn't say SHE was a virgin, only that her HUBBY was.
As for those PUSHY people trying to get you to test with them for whatever reason. I think they should be reported. SUGGESTING that your hubby could be cheating so test for this or that is pretty underhanded and NOT a good way to go about promoting STD screenings. I would actually contact the Campus Heath department (or whomever ran that STI event) and complain. (you can do it anonymous if you like).
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2015): Did you keep your other two partners a secret from your husband? That would be your first mistake. If he was a virgin then I would call it more like an act of cruelty.
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female
reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (9 February 2015):
 http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Chlamydia/Pages/Introduction.aspx
Good info here.
Your age apparently entitles you to a simple and confidential test so if you are feeling like you want more info before your OB-GYN appointment then be brave and go get tested. Fear is usually caused by uncertainty of the unknown. Get your facts all together and you'll have nothing to worry about.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (9 February 2015):
P.S. Now is not a good time to omit potentially important details. Be honest about your health and background with the doctor. :)
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (9 February 2015):
Stop fretting. Your OB-GYN will order the tests needed to determine the best approach.
Relax.
Good luck!
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