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writes:My ex-girlfriend and I broke up on very bad terms a few months ago after I found out that she had been lying too me about her ex-boyfriend. She had told me that he was begging for her back and that she just hung up when he rung her/contacted her. She told me she loved me, that I was her world, all of that. Then I found out that it had been her contacting him trying too get him back and that she had had a miscarriage and everything whilst she was with him (with someone elses baby, not his). When I met up with her, she admitted it and told me that she was sorry but she loved her ex boyfriend still. This was just the tip of the iceberg. She is bipolar but that is no excuse for what she did.Despite our break up.. I knew she still cared about me.. and I still care about her and think about her all the time. I've been heartbroken but I still care. Now, 3 months later she sent me a email saying that she didn't tell me the truth that night.. and that I am the one she loves and sees a future with. I still love her.. but I can't see things being the same again. I could never trust her again and I think I could do much better because I am a nice person and deserve better than her. But there is something about her. I just love her, but I wish I didn't. Its really horrible. She desperately wants me back but I don't know if I should meet her because it might hurt even more. Should I even consider getting back with her? I'm too tired too write anything else sorry but any replies are much appreciated. One thing I will say is that I think that if I got back her I would be frowned upon by friends and family. I don't want this.
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reader, lola16182  +, writes (4 August 2009):
The others are right.
Don't take her back. Your heart says yes, you head says no. This is one of those times where it is important to listen to your head, otherwise your heart is in for a major beatdown when she decides to hurt you...AGAIN.
You are right. You deserve better than her. I went back with someone that lied to me & no matter how hard you try you will never fully trust them again. You can forgive but not forget. It turns you into a paranoid person, you find yourself doubting when they say they are going out with friends...you wonder if they are really going out with their ex or someone like that.
That being said...there a few odd ball cases that do work. But the other person has to make huge initiatives to change, and that's not very common.
Best advice is to take it as experience and move on. Now you know what to look for in future girlfriends, and if you see those characteristics...RUN! Good luck to you.
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reader, princess_grace  +, writes (3 August 2009):
I say forget it, sorry, she sounds like bad news.You're right, you deserve better, and you will find someone better. Don't give up! Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2009): I understand how you feel coz I am also in the same situation as you.I still love my ex too and know that he loves me but I am afraid what my family and friends say if I get back to him. They would say I am stupid for not listening to them and that I have already separated from him..it's my chance to forget him..why will I want him back? I will just go over the same cycle again blah blah blah.Although I know they are right but it's me who's going crazy here and suffering. It's not them, right?But they say to me that everything I am going through right now is normal and that I will in time get over this. The important thing is, I will erase him from my life. The earlier the better.So right now I am trying to do what everyone says coz I know it is for my own good. Not everything that makes you suffer is not good and not everything that feels right is good for you. Hope you get what I mean.Anyway, I am putting this on my watched list coz any advice you will get is also applicable to me.Be strong.
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