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Should I end my 3 YEAR AFFAIR???

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Question - (17 August 2010) 4 Answers - (Newest, 21 August 2010)
A female United States age 51-59, anonymous writes:

I have been having an affair for three years. We are both married. I'm trying to figure out:

If I should stay in my marriage, end it and tell my husband?

Or get out of my marriage. It's not fair to my husband to continue this in this way.

Also, should I tell the wife of the guy I'm seeing. It's not fair to her either...


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A female reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2010):

End it.

The guilt you could never be off. your conscience kills you. Some things are good to see in drama and in movies. I knwo in real life. most of the time extra marital only creates more pain in life for ever till death bead.

So my advice will be end it ASAP. you have already done bad to your husband who trust you blindly. you have already misused the trust and betrayed it. stop it before it comes open. Truth always have tendency to come out on surface on it's own.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2010):

Start afresh three years of deceit is a big deal and can not really be mended ( in my opinion)

Regarding telling the girlfrein /wife , you may have her best interests at heart however i would not blurt this truth out to her, best let the boyfriend do his own dirty work because their will be a lot of broken hearts here.

Telling your husband ?????? yes should tell the truth but be carefull how you deliver it...truth is good but too much information all at once, like i have lied to you for the past three years!!!!!!!one day is bad enough but 3years is hard to take in, be gentle.

I hope all goes well and broken hearts mend...and i wish you well too and hope that you can begin again's not too late...come clean and start a clean slate.

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (17 August 2010):

eyeswideopen agony auntTell your husband and you two decide what you should do. Let the guy you are screwing around with deal with his own wife and marriage.

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A female reader, tennisstar88 United States +, writes (17 August 2010):

tennisstar88 agony auntAffairs arent fair especially if there's children involved. Do u have any and how old? No one wants to come from a broken home. However, honesty is the best policy..My mother had an affair for a year and my dad finally caught her, it ended in was for the best. By my mother not telling the truth she was hurting me and my brother, then when she came clean we started the process of forgiveness. U need to tell ur husband bc the truth will come out eventually, then be prepared for maybe divorce papers, if not and u two decide to stay together I suggest marriage counseling bc ur marriage is lacking something in order for u to stray away. Now as for the married man, his wife does deserve to know but i dont think its really ur place to tell her. He needs to tell her himself, hopefully he will tell her but I somehow doubt it..eventually she'll find out one way or the other. Take care of ur own business.

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