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writes: there was a guy i knew from grammar school and now i am 26..i think a few years ago we may have liked each other..we hung out once to catch up but then i think he wound up in a relationship with another girl from the same school. I met someone as well.I have been single for a while now and they are still together (i think)..so it's been years that they have been together..i would say about 5..i don't know all the details and i havent' seen him in awhile..we will sometimes talk on aim or he will text me during the holidays. On fb, they have a lot of pictures together over the years but nothing recent..and i noticed he removed his "in a relationship" status from facebook which seems odd. It doesn't list anything but he still has his albums up.He told me awhile ago they were on a break and then got back together. I guess i sort of have a crush but i know he is hands off.He texted me probably 2 months ago if i wanted to meet up in the group he was in for a drink..it was a little too late since i wasn't ready and decided not to go. I texted him about a month ago if he wanted to grab drinks and he can invite whoever he wants..he said he was honestly tired from work but would make it up to me.He texted me randomly yesterday asking if i had plans for the night and said so and so's brother is in town and said i should bring a friend. I didn't have any friends to bring and i also was coming back from the beach so i felt lazyHe texted again later kind of joking around saying i have too many excuses etc..and i said i'll try to come..i was getting ready but really didn't like how i was looking after the beach..my hair was still greasy after a shower etc..i didnt feel as confident..and it was almost midnight by the time i was ready..they were still out though..i sort of decided by 1am i wasn't gonna go and fell asleepi woke up and saw a text at 2:30 from him joking around about why i didnt come meet them and he was looking forward to seeing me :(I texted him back this morning saying im sorry and i wanted and to let me know if they go out again tonight and no response at all..so i am guessing he is still with her b/c otherwise he probably would have responded.It sounds like maybe he likes me a little though? He's a decent guy and i can't picture him ever cheating and another friend said the same. I guess in some way i wish i had a chance with him.Should i text him tomorrow and wish him a happy 4th or leave it be for now?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2011): he's not married to this girl..i think i mentioned they are going out for a years..probably since he was 20 21 and he is 26 now.
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reader, Abella  +, writes (4 July 2011):
 In answer to your question, yes he certainly does like you a little.
As tactfully as possible do some checking to see if he and his wife have really broken up, or if the guy is just feeling like playing up a little.
If the latter, forget him.
If you believe he is a good guy and confirmed as divorced then I see no problem with making a low key contact to say hi. And perhaps sharing a coffee together to see if you still feel a connection.
But if he is not divorced and only separated then leave him alone.
Firstly a rebound relationship if never one to try. And if he is separated, then he is still not available.
So don't bother with him unless he is divorced.
A guy in my neighborhood has been legally separated for nine years!! Yes, he uses it as an excuse to play up, but then can back out easily, if the relationship gets serious and he needs it to end. With the excuse, 'sorry', he's 'married'. Even though in name only.
I think this neighbor/player will still be separated from the same woman, still, in another 10 years. It is so convenient for him.
Tread carefully with the guy interested in you until you are truly certain.
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